well my hubby and i seem to b on the mend...funny was what seemed to get his attn is me kinda holding back. i wasnt prposely being distant, but when u dont feel somebody with u, u dont feel like reaching out to them. when he would try to kiss me, i just felt funny and it showed. its natural 2 want to protect urself when u feel ur being rejected. anyway he noticed this and seemed to get him to reach for me more. and then i loosened up a little and let him touch me. we had sex. it was choppy and wierd, but it was genuine. i appreciated him for really seeming to try. no fireworks as there have been in the past...but i could feel that he missed me and i truly missed him. we went grocery shopping together and he didnt even complain...it was nice just being around him. the thing i liked the most about both of these happenings is that they were orchestrated by him and not me. he suggested going shopping together, when i suggested me going alone and he initiated the sex and has been obviously more affectionate...whatever is wrong with him, i guess either the fog is clearing or hes just making a real effort to reach out to me and stop pushing me away. and i lost 4 lbs too....good day