im keeping a journal of all the stuff my husband does that irritates me. its been a lot of writing...a lot of stuff i look at as typical male female married couple stuff....but we could both do better anyway....a lot of the little stuff is made worst by the major stuff. i have to take the journals to our counselling session. im not sure when that will be. each of us met with our pastor individually, bujt havent met together yet. i told my mom that we're in councelling. she thought it was a great idea. she was aware of some problems and others she was not; but she over all thought that any married couple could use some counselling.