How does his actions/moods affect us as a family? How do they make us feel?
That is what my therapist wants me to focus on right now. I think in some ways this is more detrimental to me...to us....for me to think about this shit....but....
when I notice that he's drifting away from me, when he doesn't want to communicate, when he's short tempered with the kids, when he's build up a wall around himself, how else is that supposed to make me feel?
His actions ARE going to affect my moods. His actions ARE going to affect my kids.
going to write more later. Thinking how I need to see his therapist, as his door is always open to me. He doesn't believe in the codependent/coaddict shit. He knows that I"ve been hurt deeply by what H did and didn't do. Period. My therapist is starting to label me as codependent, altho we've gotten into arguements over this, and she saw how I was not backing down on my beliefs on the matter.
so, how does his mood affect us? well, when I feel that he's drifting away, when he's short tempered with the children, not as focused on his wife/partner as he should be, well, I guess that affects us. It puts us in a bad mood. It makes us feel unwanted, unloved.
how else would that make us feel?