Eli is very needy, very clingy, very smothering.  There are times when i can handle it and times i cannot.  He grew up without a father.  All he knows is his mom and grandma.  His grandma raised him practically.  What i dont like hearing him call his mom and grandma is names.  I know they are rude to him at times, and down right inconsiderate of his feelings or what could happen to him.  Like today for instance, he almost slipped in the kitchen and his mom got mad at him for almost slipping! What is that?  I dont understand?  Oh my gosh, i'm soooo confused.  I love him, but i'm afraid, of being in a bad position with him.  I'm afraid of him driving me nuts!  He takes resperidol i think thats how you spell it.  He told me it is used to treat people with psychosis.  Wow.... He has a lot o issues to work out.  I know he just wants to be happy, and i do too.  But that is putting a lot of pressure on me to make the both of us happy.  I'm in a bind!  My best friend does NOT want me to be with him, but it's not her decision.  What to do!!!!