Grrr
Just when I am starting to feel better about my son in law, he does something stupid to piss me off again.
Cevyn called this morning. I knew that her car had died. I figured that she would not be able to meet me in Thunder Bay. It would have been nice and I think she really wanted to come. Anyway, she said that she wants to get a new car but right now does not have a steady enough job. Her dad said he would buy her one when she gets a job that will pay for gas etc. And I guess he was giving her grief for not being home. Now this is what pisses me off. She doesn't have a car, he said she should be out looking for a job every day. They live about 40 minutes from the city. He drives her in and I guess he drives her home too. How is she to be job hunting and home at the same time? One good piece of news was that her hedgehog is better. It had a string around its toe cutting off the circulation. The toe fell off and she is active again!
Harvey and Beth are going to Scotland and not taking Cevyn. That ticks me off too. We have taken her to Europe a couple of times and from coast to coast in Canada!!! He brags about how much money he is making and yet he won't take her to Scotland.
I was really good and did not get angry at Harvey when I was on the phone. She does get upset when I bad mouth him. I do a lot of tongue biting when we talk.
I can't get past the fact that we bailed Harvey out of debt more than once. We actually put him on my Visa card on my account so that he could take clients out etc. after he went bankrupt. When he rang up $25,000, I told Lisa. She was under the impression that he was paying it off monthly. Grr.
So again I am going to endeavor to forgive - again. Deep breaths innnn ouuuut!
I went for a long walk this morning and calmed myself down. I know it sounds petty and is not the end of the world. But I know that Lisa would have handled things much differently.
Thanks for being there!
Cevyn called this morning. I knew that her car had died. I figured that she would not be able to meet me in Thunder Bay. It would have been nice and I think she really wanted to come. Anyway, she said that she wants to get a new car but right now does not have a steady enough job. Her dad said he would buy her one when she gets a job that will pay for gas etc. And I guess he was giving her grief for not being home. Now this is what pisses me off. She doesn't have a car, he said she should be out looking for a job every day. They live about 40 minutes from the city. He drives her in and I guess he drives her home too. How is she to be job hunting and home at the same time? One good piece of news was that her hedgehog is better. It had a string around its toe cutting off the circulation. The toe fell off and she is active again!
Harvey and Beth are going to Scotland and not taking Cevyn. That ticks me off too. We have taken her to Europe a couple of times and from coast to coast in Canada!!! He brags about how much money he is making and yet he won't take her to Scotland.
I was really good and did not get angry at Harvey when I was on the phone. She does get upset when I bad mouth him. I do a lot of tongue biting when we talk.
I can't get past the fact that we bailed Harvey out of debt more than once. We actually put him on my Visa card on my account so that he could take clients out etc. after he went bankrupt. When he rang up $25,000, I told Lisa. She was under the impression that he was paying it off monthly. Grr.
So again I am going to endeavor to forgive - again. Deep breaths innnn ouuuut!
I went for a long walk this morning and calmed myself down. I know it sounds petty and is not the end of the world. But I know that Lisa would have handled things much differently.
Thanks for being there!
Replies
You have done very well, Marlene. I am sure its hard to hold your tongue especially where Ceyvn is concerned. Love and tight hugs, Linda
I can\'t imagine how hard it is to not be able to speak your mind. You are such a good grandma and Ceyvn will be the one to benefit. Having you in her life is always a blessing. Peace, Kathy
Not petty at all!!! I just hate it when we have no control over a situation and our grandkids are affected...certainly would handle it differently that\'s for sure. She is so lucky kid to have you on her side!! ((((Hugs))) Vicki
Powerless indeed. Your relationship with Cevyn is what matters and this guy is an unfortunate accessory to that relationship. You are doing the best you can in all of this...love to you my friend.
He sounds like a real piece of work. How mean not to help his daughter get a car that will safely allow her to work and do the things she would enjoy.
It is hard to not say something, I\'m sure.
Your Cevyn has to be such a precious granddaughter, and it\'s wonderful she can easily talk to you. She has to feel that you want the best for her and love her very much.
Hugs, Debbie
It can be hard to bite your tongue and even harder to forgive sometimes. I once read a quote that said...\"hold forgiveness in your heart and when it comes, let it in\". That\'s what I do when I\'m no ready to forgive in the hear and now. I just hold a place for it. Eventually it comes. Best of luck with the car situation. Much love. Robin
I\'m proud of you Marlene...you are a wonderful mum & grandmum!
Cevyn is the important one...proud of you - sure hope biting your tongue doesn\'t hurt too much. Hugs, Ann