I'm not too good at journaling yet, I guess, but some-one sent me this and I kinda liked it so thought I would post - even though it goes without saying, of course, that our children will always be present in our lives....



 
 
Part of the process (of rebirth) is the growth of a new relationship with the dead ... that veritable ami mort Saint-Exupery speaks of.  Like all gestation, it is a slow, dark, wordless process.  While it is taking place one is painfully vulnerable.  One must guard and protect the new life growing within - like a child. - Anne Morrow Lindbergh
 
 
It is over shaky ground - this journey between the relationship we had when the person was alive and the relationship we come to have with the dead.  We don't know what to expect, don't even know what we're looking for.  Are we fooling ourselves, conjuring up the possibility that we can have a relationship with someone who's died?
 
Perhaps it is a little like a first-time parent who, anxious that something may go wrong, has to keep going back and checking on the baby.  Is the baby all right?  Still breathing?  Still peacefully sleeping?
 
After a while the parent becomes more confident.  The baby really is there, and safe, but as with other miracles, this miracle of birth takes getting used to.  Perhaps in like manner comes the slowly dawning confidence that in the mystery of living, it is possible to have an ongoing relationship with the departed.
 
 
I will open my heart in trust that, in ways I might not now understand, my loved one will continue to be present in my life.

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Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

The idea of rebirth is so consoling to me. I really appreciate reading this and thank you for sharing it. I think each of us is seeking how to be in relationship with our children now, today. We are learning and yes, just like the new parent always checking and wondering how we are doing? I am going to be copying this into my journal. Thank you dear friend. With love, Joanie
deleted_user
deleted_user

Beautiful entry and much to ponder on. My mother loved Anne Morrow Lindbergh and had all of her books. Was this in the one written when she was at a beach house?

Today is hard for me. I need to KNOW that Jim is still in my life. My heart is open to him and begs for him.

Love,

Soosanah
biowoman
biowoman

This is very thought provoking...I like it. It does take time...another part of our journey...and I believe that my relationshipe with Alex does continue...love to you...Karen
CorysMom
CorysMom

Thanks!!! I like this but can\'t say why.
Missinglisa
Missinglisa

Thank you. I too need to know that Lisa is still with me. I feel so desolate at times.
I appreciate you sharing this.
Marlene
BinkyH
BinkyH

Thank you so much for sharing this. It truly resonates for me. It was truly a relationship that we had to come to learn when our children were born and one we have to learn after they died. They were here and now they are somewhere else. I don\'t exactly know where, but I am learning how to live my life with an unknown relationship. Wasn\'t that where I started with my son? Thought provoking entry. Hugs, Belinda
NellW
NellW

I read and reread this journal. I hear so many of the Moms saying they feel their child\'s presence...I wish I could.

Peace and kindness to you.
Nell
Sandi2947
Sandi2947

Very thoughtful interesting concept. I like Nell, do not feel Ken\'s presense. Perhaps it has to do with my Bible teaching....I don\'t know...Thanks for sharing..
deleted_user
deleted_user

\"After a while the parent becomes more confident. The baby really is there, and safe, but as with other miracles, this miracle of birth takes getting used to.\"
Wow, this really spoke to me and I add my thanks to you for sharing it! After 25 years, I still know they\'re with me, but it\'s not a visceral experience anymore. No more pokes, prods or seeing their light in quite a long while. I\'m wondering if maybe it was initially done for MY benefit and they know it\'s not necessary now, with this newfound \"confidence\" this passage talks about. Would be nice sometimes to have more \"obvious\" contact tho, like in the early days. (((HUG)))
deleted_user
deleted_user

How beautiful,and comforting.Thank you for sharing it.
SusanLarson
SusanLarson

That was so nice & comforting. Thanks, Susan
renjon
renjon

As time passes I find solace in memories and the words of our friends who support me in so many ways. It is great to a place where we can share feelings. Thanks for the comforting message Harrietr
heartsandhands
heartsandhands

Thank you for giving me something very beautiful to think about as I go to sleep tonight. I have been a little droopy recently, missing Andy. I do believe we can make another kind of relationship. I sure know the love is still strong!
Peace, Sarah
zzztop
zzztop

beautiful thank you so much . hugs zzz
Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

Reading this again almost a year later and wish you would write another journal... just sayn. :) Your thoughts and words are where I find myself on this path today. Learning how to be in relationshp with my son is an on-going process. How is this coming for you now? I would love to hear about it when you are able. You write beautifully so trust this process... whatever comes into your heart touches mine and others too of this I am certain.

In gratitude for the sharing always,
Love and hugs, Joanie