Young Widows Community Group

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missingyouxx 02/06/2012

Its been nearly 4 months since i lost my fiance lewis suddenly. These past few weeks have been very hard. It would of been Lewis's 24th birthday on wedneday 25th jan and it was a day that made it seem even more unbeilevable that he is not here celebrating. How could he not be here on his 24th birthday? I just cant take it in. I feel deeply depressed. We should be planning our wedding now, not letting balloons go in his memory. i miss him so much and i feel like ive been cut in half. ive also noticed that i find it too hard to look at our pictures where as 6-7 weeks ago i could look at them (i would still cry) but it almost makes me feel iwas in denial and thought he would come back.... or i was still numb from shock.

Ive noticed my friends are starting to slowly drift off from me. This makes my lonely feelings even more extreme. I dont know if they think i should be getting back to "normal" by now or if they are just too scared to come and see poor, lonely ,sad, bereved sophie. just needed to vent......thanks for listening guys

deleted_user 02/13/2012

Hello: I hope this post finds your a bit better. I know those firsts are tough. I have lived through Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years right off the bat as well. I lost my husband 10-24-11 to a massive heartattack. We were married 7 1/2 years and togehter since '99. I feel like I have lost half of my heart. That it is with him. I feel hollow and run down all of the time. I do agree that I was in shock at first, I guess waiting for it to sink in that he was not coming home. I am in a vicious derpessive cycle now, I go to school, do my homework, eat and sleep that is it. I am keeping horibble hours and doing nothing outside of this. I know that it has to stop as it is not healty. I too have found out who our true friends are. It is sad but ugly. For me the saddest is that all of my SIL
have turned vulturistic and me. I am not ready to part with Donn;s things I let alone can hardly look at them. I just want to be left alone. His friends have been great to me they were a brotherhood of sorts and take care of one another. I have that to be thankful for. Try to hand in there I know that is easier said than done. I want to slap someone when they say it to me. But from someone who is going through the same process I am just hoping you will find comfort in these words. Hugs Amanda

deleted_user 02/23/2012

I'm going through the exact same thing. It's my loves birthday tomorrow, I've been putting it away from my mind all week because I know I'll be a wreck if I think about it. It will be one year in almost a month. I feel like I've cried out all my tears. Now I just feel more weak than ever. We're having his favourite ice cream cake and sending balloons away too. After that, the whole family is playing basketball in his memory, because that was his favourite as well. I'm glad we are doing something instead of feeling terrible all day knowing it's his birthday. I hate how fast time flies.

My friends have drifted away from me too. None of them do not know what to say and seem like they rather just not be around me at all. It got to a point where I just put all my grief away, and just tried to be myself again so I wouldn't worry them or depress them. Sometimes I need to see friends to keep myself sane, but I hate how it requires me to not open up to them about serious things. It's a lonely feeling I know..I learned to just feel what you feel, and the ones who stay by your side are really the ones who matter. hope you feel better Hugs

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