Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
http://proactivechange.com/zug/ebooks/Proactive12steps-Book.pdf
http://proactivechange.com/books/proactive12steps.htm
I found these workbooks which seem helpful so thought I would share.
They don't focus on being co-D with an alcoholic or drug addicted partner or family member so much and focus on the work we can do.
http://proactivechange.com/books/proactive12steps.htm
I found these workbooks which seem helpful so thought I would share.
They don't focus on being co-D with an alcoholic or drug addicted partner or family member so much and focus on the work we can do.
I'm reading the part right now where it says to 'get specific about what our self destructive behaviors are".
For me it would be : "My love fantasy addiction is self-destructive. My procrastination is self-destructive."
Really good, I'm going to save this and come back to it once I'm on holidays and have lots of time to read more.
as a 12 stepper it's a little hard to take. people who have not worked the 12 steps i don't think should be writing about them as a framework for helping other people. it is a spiritual proactive program, a way of life, not meant to be interpreted and misconstrued and contorted by people who don't understand it. that's all. it's just hard to take but i if they had offered their own steps and framework for recovery it would be much more helpful. please don't think this is working the steps as they are meant to be worked.
CODA is a VERY valuable program available to anyone not just people with lives affected by drugs and alcohol. like AA millions of people are recovering from codependency.
whenever someone gets to AA or CODA or ALANON or whatever they usually have an issue with the god part of it. but if they stay they come to learn how spirituality is a very important freeing part of recovery.
this is not a 12 step site. this is not a spiritual site. not everyone wants a spiritual life but in my opinion everyone could benefit from one. social, emotional, physical, spiritual, financial, these are all important facets of healthy living.
anyway what you shared is valuable and i'm so glad you did. i have a personal thing with it but on the othe hand you didn't like the book i suggested by melody beattie so i'm wide open. it's just a 12 stepper annoyance when people outside of the program pretend to know or criticize or contort the 12 steps....
having said that i'm going to take a deep breath and read what you suggested anyway.
open open open.....
I struggle with the spiritual thing right now. It seems like too huge a jump in my consciousness.!
Im open too!
My youngest (13) daughter was here and we spent all day giggling and being silly with it, taking pics and making animations!
I actually want to get good enough to illustrate a children's book I wrote a few years ago. x so thanks for the encouragement!
so talented!