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Why is it so hard to change things we want to chan

shani96
shani96
Do you have trouble with this? I do. I have learned so much this past year about how to change behaviors in myself that do not work anymore. How to love myself and take good care of myself...and yet there are times that I just don't do anything but sit and think negative thoughts.

How do you keep doing all the right stuff that you KNOW will help you without giving up? I would rather think think think my way thru things than to actually do the work. This I know only makes things worse.

Is it still fear? Fear of rejection or abandonment? How do you cope with that fear and do the stuff anyway?

I need to stay connected to friends and yet I feel myself just wanting to isolate. Maybe I am trying to create drama? There is little drama in my life right now and I think I am feeling somber because of this. I don't know how to be ok without feelings of way up or way down. I am questioning myself and feeling uneasy. This is usually the time when I would sabotage myself. Creating drama. I do not want to do that.

What are your thoughts?
osahermosa
osahermosa
Jesus, it is like I was speaking through you! These days I have been exactly the same. I am not doing what I am supposed to do - I do things but not what I am supposed to do...I do not know why?? I think I am falling in the same pattern you were talking about -. On one hand I took my dog to the vet and he could not cure it but my dog got a very serious skin ringworm which can contaminate me too - so I needed to go to another vet - and now that I am talking I realize why I was afraid of taking him to another vet...I live in a small town in Colombia and those vets don't look like they have gone to the university - they look puzzled and not very clean...so I am prescribing my dog and that worries me a lot - he is not doing well - there is another doctor - but I spent all my money on make up - it sounds like I am going insane - God - and I cannot stop. It has to do with me moving to another town where I know nobody - th wheather is terrible. I think I that is it. Thank you for reading
finnmyway
finnmyway
yes i can relate as well. it's classic dieting or addictions stuff.

here's the thing: we don't actually change without changing our beliefs and we hold our beliefs tightly to our chests. so it's not possible to change i mean second order lasting change until we clean out our thinking. until then you are contiuing to believe what you believe about life and men and yourself and relationships and that is status quo.

we can do this relatively easily with good guidance.

what we get to do as long as we stay in the circle is beat ourselves up for knowing what we need to do and not doing it.............