Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
We have understood that it was our childhood conditions that made us pick a man with whom we would recreate those same conditions in order to this time win.
Longing for a happy end in a chaotic and not fullfilling Relationship can ve Dangerous for our health, and even life threatening.
The thing is, that once in the Relationship, sometimes a marriage of several years where children are included, it is so very diffiuclt to let go.
We must understand that in the urge, it is not a matter of leaving or staying but on start working on ourselves from today.
As we get better, the Relationship will sort itself out alone.
That is why, the first thing to do is not trying to arrange him, or trying to go into a discussion trying to fix him.
We must learn to stay still.
While recovering we must look for the help of a therapist whit whom we can adress our own childhood problems, and not a therapist for counseling for hm or to fix the Relationship.
The work of recovery puts aside him and the Relationship, for instead a permanent focus on ME!, ME! ME!
Loving too much is life threatening for many reasons, those men can become violent and Deadly assult us, or the stress lived through the years can kill us, or we can commit suicide, or have a car accident for driving while having in the head ol the hecktick problems of the Relationship. We can also eat in a non balanced wy for years and this can permanently damage our health. We can get AIDS from a man who cheats while we do not know it. etc.
All this reasons make sens when we think that if we were stroken with cancer (a fatal disese) , we would go to any lenghts to recover.
This is exactly what we must be doing with this problem. Go to any lengths to recover, not in a ponctual and dramatic assault to the problem, but methodically following steps on the long term and for the rest of our lives.
I have been in dreadful sheets in the past, you must beleive me that as you work hard on yur recovery, life does get better and that is a promise.
Hugs,
Love in recovery,
Maria
Longing for a happy end in a chaotic and not fullfilling Relationship can ve Dangerous for our health, and even life threatening.
The thing is, that once in the Relationship, sometimes a marriage of several years where children are included, it is so very diffiuclt to let go.
We must understand that in the urge, it is not a matter of leaving or staying but on start working on ourselves from today.
As we get better, the Relationship will sort itself out alone.
That is why, the first thing to do is not trying to arrange him, or trying to go into a discussion trying to fix him.
We must learn to stay still.
While recovering we must look for the help of a therapist whit whom we can adress our own childhood problems, and not a therapist for counseling for hm or to fix the Relationship.
The work of recovery puts aside him and the Relationship, for instead a permanent focus on ME!, ME! ME!
Loving too much is life threatening for many reasons, those men can become violent and Deadly assult us, or the stress lived through the years can kill us, or we can commit suicide, or have a car accident for driving while having in the head ol the hecktick problems of the Relationship. We can also eat in a non balanced wy for years and this can permanently damage our health. We can get AIDS from a man who cheats while we do not know it. etc.
All this reasons make sens when we think that if we were stroken with cancer (a fatal disese) , we would go to any lenghts to recover.
This is exactly what we must be doing with this problem. Go to any lengths to recover, not in a ponctual and dramatic assault to the problem, but methodically following steps on the long term and for the rest of our lives.
I have been in dreadful sheets in the past, you must beleive me that as you work hard on yur recovery, life does get better and that is a promise.
Hugs,
Love in recovery,
Maria
I have been reading your posts. The one about Lambka is heartbreaking. I have been on my own for me ver a year, divorced said nice Dec 2015 after a 35 year marriage. I am happier and healthier than I have ever been
In my life. I am from cursing on taking care of me and not fixing my husband.
That is good for you. Way to go ! and Congrats on you being able to go on on a healthy life while focusing on yourself.
After my second divorce in 2004 I have been living alone concentrating in myself. These have been very nice and productive years. I like the place where I am at to in life. Specially since I've come a long way.