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What they project on to us.

harmony7
harmony7
I first want to say that im going well with NC though I had a near miss recently when out drinking wine with a friend.I started to feel angry at him and wanted to say some hurtful words to him about how he hurt me but rational thinking took control for once.I thought im better than that so do not give him the pleasure.He always said I was evil and bad so I reminded myself that I am neither of those things so do not give to him the very thing he tells me I am.I thought it would be nice to have a bit of a laugh sharing with each other some of the crazy things they project on to us.Mine told me I was bad,evil.My eyes scared him.I took him down in his job.I was clingy and a broken creature.I was also a fruit loop and insane.I would also only ever know loneliness and the list goes on.I would be interested in what others had projected on to them.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was angry and he said my eyes were always looking through him!!!

I love cooking and he said I only cooked for him to make him fat WTF!!!!
He said that I was needy ,jealous ,insecure and controlling !! Although it was him that looked through my phone,emails and thought when I was at work I was really with my ex husband !! Again WTF?! And drove through my town at the exact time he knew I would be out in town ....

He said he had never met anyone who spoke to him the way I did and my honesty astounded him!!!

Other stuff was not verbal but more very passive aggressive behaviour .....
harmony7
harmony7
That's funny claity75 bout the cooking to make him fat.Like you said WTF!!! At least at times we can look back and laugh at their outrageous crap they come out with.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Harmony.... Fruit loops ( the cereal) are sweet, colourful and everyone ( except miserable Path Narcs !) loves them. I'm PROUD to have been called a fruit loop or even a daft cookie too :)........ we are the free-spirited, joyful, playful, loving, happy women that Narcs just hate because they can never be like us !
harmony7
harmony7
Lol thanks 2butterfly yes there are worse things than getting called a sweet colourful fruitloop I guess.They know they can never be like us that's why they project their nastiness on to us.
deleted_user
deleted_user
He joked about my "multiple personalities" and got mad at me and didn't talk to me for two weeks, because I "pressed" him on something he didn't want to talk about. He didn't say he didn't want to talk about it, and it was something he had told me before that didn't add up. He also ended it with me, by telling me he had enough shit to deal with and didn't need my drama.............huh? Still to this day, don't know what I did that was so wrong.