http://www.lisaescott.com/narcspeak

I cut and pasted these from these website. This was so helpful for me dealing witht the cognitive dissonance. The following quotes were all said to me in some variation or another. Now looking at what he really meant has helped me see him for what he really is.. I hope these are helpful to al of you. Also, the website noted above is very helpful.


First comment is THE NARCISSIST SPEAKING
Second comment is the TRANSLATION

I would never do anything to hurt you.
(BACKWARDS TALK) I love hurting you, it makes me feel so powerful and in control - so never defend yourself against me. Wait until I throw you away like a used condom!

You never loved me enough. You never gave me what I needed.
It's all about ME ME ME and you stopped giving me supply.

You know you are the one I love baby.
For the next few minutes - but as soon as you're not around I love who ever is with me that I think I can get into bed.

I would never lie to you.
(typical backwards N talk. If their mouth is moving, they're lying.)

You know I would never ever hurt you.
... for about the next 3 minutes or until I have you hooked and hypnotized. Then I am going turn you, your life, your self-esteem and anything about you that's good into dog meat.

I never want to fight with you ever again.
I love fighting but I want you to STOP STANDING UP TO ME! I am the king! ME ME ME!

No one could ever fill your shoes.
Not for at least 5 more minutes. And if you believe that I have swampland in Florida to sell ya'.

Maybe I am not the right person for you.
I am going to 'sow the seeds of doubt' in you so that you will work harder to make ME happy and PLEASE ME ME ME. This will also keep her trauma-bonded to me because she'll be afraid of me leaving her!

You were hurt me you never showed me love.
(PROJECTION) I was abusive to you and I didn't like you calling me on it. I should be able to crap on anyone I want, anytime I want, with no consequences.

You were not appreciative of all I did for you.
And no matter what you did for me, it would never be enough.

I will always love you.
I know saying that 'love' word gets me what I want. So I'll say it even though I am clueless as to what it really means.

We will always be attracted to each other.
An NLP command to plant in your brain to make sure I can come around and sleep with you whenever I want.

I don't think you and I talking would do either of us any good.
Since you have me figured out and won't buy any more of my b.s. I can't face you. You scare me and you might just reveal more of the sick predator I am.

You are the most beautiful woman, you're the one for me!
I tell this to all my ladies... and all you bitches fall for it every time!! LOL!

I want to build and share a life together, I hope you want the same
And if you believe this - I have a bridge in Brooklyn for sale. You dumb women always believe this!

You have the most incredible body, my hand fits perfectly on you!
And if you believe this you're going to give me loads of great sex until I'm ready to move on to the next one!

Honey, I came back to the office just to see you
Actually I came back for something else but its a perfect opportunity to rope you in again!

Tell your boyfriends to stop calling, you're with me now
I'm a controlling bastard and want you to spend every waking moment on ME!

You mean too much to me. Please talk to me.
Damn, you found out all my lies. I need to re-brainwash you. Hopefully you'll buy this B.S. because I need to silence you!

You have become such a big part of me in every way like my shadow...I dont know how I could go on without you in my life.
(this is blatant NLP - meant to implant in YOUR BRAIN that YOU cannot go on without HIM. backwards talking.)


I did it to protect you. I am doing this for you.
I did it to protect me but now I am going to make you feel bad by backward talking!

I didn't want to make you paranoid.
What I really didn't want was for you to find out! Damn you!

I love you more than I have ever loved anyone before, what we have is so special.
Now spread your legs so I can lie some more to get what I want.

Would i lie to you?
I always lie to you, everyone else and even myself.

You are such a big part of my life, I call you every morning... I don't know what I will do without you.
I tell this to all the victims I call and toy with. [it's a backward NLP statement meant to make YOU feel that way - not him]
Stop attacking me.
I don't like being held accountable for anything. Ever. How dare you question me or rip my false mask off!

I left you because of the way you treated me.
I left because you started to figure me out... Damn you.

Making love to you just feels so perfect and so right every time.
Make sure you are available to me anytime I want to get laid for free.

You're never going to find guy like me who will put up with all this shit
I want your self-esteem to be non-existant so even when I'm gone my words control your mind forever!

I didn't want to fall in love with you, it just happened. Believe me if I could stop loving you I would.
(Backwards talk and NLP for you to love him.)

You mean you've never fooled around with anyone? I am sure you fucked someone on the cruise.
I am screwing everything that walks so I make myself feel better by believing you are too. I think screwing around is fine for me.

I left you because of the way you treated me.
I left because you started to figure me out... Damn you.

You know I don't have a girlfriend, I do this with nobody else.
Because I'm a Narc I talk backward. A lot of what I say is projection or the direct opposite. I have LOADS of girlfriends! The one who's dumb enough to marry me and a few others like you I keep on the side when I get horny. I'll sleep with anyone, anytime



You know I think you are the most beautiful thing in the whole entire world.
Another piece of pathological flattery to build you up so you'll screw me whenever I want and fall all over me to make my ego even bigger. Don't mean it and actually I am the most beautiful thing in the world. So using NLP & mind control if I say it to you, maybe you'll say it to me too! Wow what an ego rush!


You have serious self esteem issues, you know there's only one woman for me.
And I want you to CONTINUE with those self esteem issues and make them worse so you will be desperate to believe any BS I tell you. There's only one woman for me - EVERY 5 minutes!


I am so taken with you, in love with you, you are the most amazing person I have ever met and I want to spend the rest of my life with you.
This line always works! And if you believe this I have a bridge in Brooklyn for sale for you

I have only been in love one other time and until I met you I don't think the love I have for you even compares.
Since I can't feel and have no idea what love is - this sounds about right!

I will never get over you if we break up.
[This is an NLP command to tell YOU never to get over him if you break up.]


We have to communicate better.
You are no longer doing what I demand you do. I had you nice & controlled - you need to go back to being controlled!

I will always love you unconditionally
I read this in a book somewhere... maybe she'll believe it.

I hope you find a better a man who treats you well, you deserve somebody better than me.
Here's an extra helping of guilt for you, to make you feel sorry for me. Maybe I can get some guilt sex out of it


You know you are the one I love baby.
For the next few minutes - but as soon as you're not around I love who ever is with me that I think I can get into bed.


I will always love you.
I know saying that 'love' word gets me what I want. So I'll say it even though I am clueless as to what it really means

I don’t know what to say to you. (after being caught in lies) Lets just not contact one another.
Since you have me figured out and won't buy any more of my b.s. I can't face you. You scare me and you might just reveal more of the sick predator I am.

I thought I was in love before, but now I know what true love is. I have never felt this way for anybody.
For the next 5 minutes. This line works really well though so I say it to every one of my targets... let's hope they never meet and share notes!