Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
I recently started reading "Women Who Love Too Much" for the second time around. The first time was in 2011 after a private counsellor suggested it. I could relate to bits and pieces of it but the 12 step recovery approach was difficult to accept.
My story of how I got to this point of voluntarily searching out the book in the hope it would keep me strong is a long and convoluted one. I broke up with an impossible-to-forgive man from 2011, got engaged to another in 2012, married him in 2013 and split soon after enduring abuse upon abuse. Then 2017 was another year of dreams and hopes being crushed into nothing after so much was promised, except this time I decided it was time to walk away. And I haven't let him change my mind.
It is a month since I saw him, around 3 weeks since I last contacted him and I have ignored all his messages. Sometimes I feel strong and sure in my decision, other times I feel intense sadness and miss him, other times my skin literally thrums from the impulse to contact him. It feels like an addiction.
I need help to stay strong. I need help to stay away from his poison and his control. I need help to build myself up, to start feeling worthy of being loved and cherished and to believe I deserve more than crumbs and emotional whiplash. I struggle to sit with my true feelings. I am always trying to outrun myself or tuning out. I just think that the time has come to make a change for the better.
Thanks for listening.
I admire you both for leaving, even though it is difficult.
I'd like to stop being addicted to my partner & stop being so fearful of the thought of a life without him.
Just keep walking that path and don't turn back.
Keep breathing and remembering how strong you have been to get to this point.
We all have such a great capacity for love, wouldn't it be amazing to be able to give that gift to someone who is worthy of it, will be able to accept and also reciprocate... imagine all that love coming back to you - because that is what you deserve, so don't settle for less.
It will no doubt be a long and painful road ahead, but I'm sure it'll be hell of a lot less painful than it has been so far, and you'll have the satisfaction of knowing you are finally being good to yourself and moving in the right direction.
Big hugs - be proud of yourself! Xx
But, you learned something new about love, being loved and showing love.
Don't stay stuck in that mud pitt, don't throw yourself back into the mud pitt, don't let sink in that mud pitt. The way out is to focus on you. Think of the pain you put yourself through during each relationship, if you go back to that relationship, you're not going back to person, but to the pain, to the struggle, and that is not love. Haven't you had enough?
Putting your words out here is progress, letting it all out is progress from within, progress that somewhere deep down inside you know you deserve more, and trust yourself, you do deserve more, a lot more.
Be tired of the bull shit, of the struggle, of the game, Be terrified of going back into a relationship that will put you back on your knees and keep you there if you let it.
Healing and change take time, takes time being with yourself. Be kind to yourself, give yourself that chance and time to change, to heal, to choose you.
I created a facebook group to which I want to invite you all. I searched everywhere but nowhere did I find such a group on facebook. So I invite all Ladies to help myself and others .
https://www.facebook.com/groups/176073546100408/?ref=share
Can you post the name of your group?
Women why love to much