Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
Do the discussions about mental health that are swirling around because of the Arizona shooter remind you of the behavior of these guys we have been involved with? It does me.
These things happen EVERY single day and it is from women that are unfortuante enough to end up with disordered men.
I TiVoed this 48 Hours last night and this women is now dead, she is no different from any of us. She fell for the charm. Meanwhile the moron that is behind bars for her murder was MARRIED while engaged to the dead girl and another girl. That is how they roll:
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2011/01/15/48hours/main7250873.shtml?tag=cbsnewsLeadStoriesArea.0
And this is an amazing memoir of a women that several of my friends knew personally. I read this book LONG before I was hit by the Narc train because my friends that knew her were talking about her and the book. I got so sad when I read the book because the girl sounded just like me. Funny and outgoing, spent 15 years at the same job, had been married to an alcoholic. The only thing that was different is that she took up with guy that did not work. Now that is where I draw a line in the sand. So all of my men have been successful men, but so what? That pathology stick is not any easier to take because someone is successful.
The title of the book comes from a note she left in her desk drawer which read: If I am ever missing or dead, open this. And sure enough when she was missing is when they found the note. Poor girl, if she knew enough to write a note like that, whey didn't she know enough to get out? Oh thats right, she was going to love him well. Right. Thats what happened.
http://www.ifiammissingordead.com/
Sister you saved yourself and thank God for it. If you want to save someone join the Coast Guard, it is the only way it pays.
There is nothing that can be done for the seriously disordered. If Dr. Robert Hare will only allow his skilled and highly trained (all doctors) staff very limited exposure to these creatures then why on earth do we think we are going to save them with our love?
I love on this YouTube where Dr. Hare states: You can't give them a puppy and a hug and make them OK. Won't work. Sorry.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZIX19pbQAs0&feature=related
I just wrote a long journal entry out . . it ended up being 11 pages in Word . . to send to my counselor. I wrote it for two reasons. One, because if I try to tell it, I lose track where I'm heading and forget and leave crucial parts out. . . and it would take so many sessions to get it all said. Get it all out there, get it all down, so we can go forward.
What I realized after I'd wrote it was, my realizing how unhappy, how hurt, how much pain I was in spawned the tornado that ensued . . . but I am not sorry. He is what he is, and he always was what he is, even though the years prior, he'd worn that mask and we'd carried on as if nothing was wrong when everything was wrong. So, I'm glad that the tornado blew and destroyed the legal marriage . I'm glad to be away from him.