Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
So, while browsing the internet i came across forums for narcs. ive seen them before but never cared to read them. well this time i did... and alot of it is support groups for them... narcs trying not to be narcs. talking about how they control, and manipulate people, how long it has been since they last manipulated someone in their recovery... how they see the world, how they cant love anyone, how they have never felt close to anyone.... how they prey on people and what makes them feel. its quite interesting to see people admitting it and the wrong they have done people, and for me it really clicked in my head... these people knew exactly what they were doing. they were not upset, they were not hurt and needed comforting. they wanted to control. the planned to control. they knew just how to build us up and knock us down... if you are in with a narcissist... dont rationalize it. they wont.
I think the crux of the problem lies in that many (most?) Ns have such fragile egos (deepdown) that they cant allow themselves to see (let alone admit) their faults. They often have a total lack of self insight....I mean no person can start to think about making changes in their lives until they have soul searched and identified the problem area....or be prepared to listen to others who can see the cracks.