I was browsing the internet looking at stupid little things, and i came across this, and it kinda amazed me how many of this i fit into and made excuses for...



He takes forever to text or email you back



In this technological age, there is nothing easier than sending someone a quick email or text. If your male companion takes hours — or even days — to respond to these simple forms of communication with even one line of acknowledgment, it’s time to kick him to the curb. This is not only lazy — it’s also rude. He might not be sending you a text message, but he is certainly sending you a clear message of another kind.



He maintains physical and emotional distance
Does he often break eye contact, even in private? Or withhold sharing personal details about his life? On the physical and emotional levels, a guy who will not share just doesn’t want to go too deep.

He avoids touching you in public

He’s Super Affectionate in Private, but in Public He Won’t Even Hold Your Hand

Normally at home he can’t keep his paws off you, so why does he back away from your touch whenever other people are around? “If he’s afraid to smooch or hold hands in public, that’s a big red flag,” says Jordan Harbinger, co-founder of the Art of Charm, a company that helps men build better social skills in personal and business relationships. “He’s afraid other people are going to judge.” Handholding in public should be no big deal even for the most PDA-phobic.


If your guy friend loves to embrace, kiss and cuddle in the privacy of your home, but won’t even hold your hand on the street, this is a major warning sign. Either he doesn’t want to be seen as being “with” you, or he is scared one of his other lovers (or his wife!) will see you out in public

He rudely shoots down your ideas


A guy can disagree with your way of seeing the world and still care. If all he does is disrespectfully disregard your perspective when communicating, he likely doesn’t think much of you. You don’t want to be with someone who can’t treat you nicely, especially when you are simply talking. Next!

He won’t let you leave things at his house

If you are at his place often, a guy who is into you will be happy to let you stow essentials there. But if someone you are frequently dating won’t even let you leave a toothbrush at his house he is either a) an obsessive compulsive neat freak, or b) trying to hide you from other women. In either case, you might want to distance yourself

He attends major events without you

Friend’s house party? Parents’ anniversary dinner? Maybe even his own birthday? Sometimes a man wants to maintain his independence. And at other times he wants to ensure that you don’t get too involved in his life so he can move on any time. If he never wants you around at a time of life that’s meaningful, you don’t mean that much to him.

He Shoots Down Your Social Invitations

This should be a clear sign to about 99% of women out there that he's not interested in getting to know you better or pursuing anything further. Trust me ladies, the first time he declines your offer to hang out you could give him the benefit of the doubt. But when it's many times in a row, he's usually not that busy, he just doesn't want to see you and is trying to be nice about it. If a guy is interested, he'll be happy to schedule a rain check or follow up with an invitation of his own. He's never too busy to make time for someone he really wants to have in his life.

You Never Meet His Friends or Family

Some guys will wait at least 6 months or more of dating to make sure that you are someone special before letting his entourage meet you. If a guy is serious about you, he'll want everyone to know about you and will have no problem introducing you to his friends, coworkers and family. If you watch the calendar months go by and this still has not happened, you are being kept a secret and you have to wonder why. Is he really single or is he still unsure about your future together? You owe it to yourself to find out what's going on.

He Does Not Call You Back the Same Day or Answers His Phone When You Call

When a guy is really into you, he does not screen his calls for your number. He'll pick up on the first ring or call you back within hours. When you see a pattern of days going by without a return phone call, you are not high on his priority list. Basically, you are being avoided. Another sign of a player or guy who is not invested in your relationship is one who never answers the phone in your presence. If you see his phone constantly on vibrate or you visit his place and his answering machine is set to low volume or mute, he's definitely still playing the field and chatting up new women.



He Takes Forever to Respond to Texts or Calls


A simple “How R U?” that goes ignored for hours means you may not be high on his priority list -- especially if he has a track record for replying instantly. Texting is so non-committal,” says Harbinger. “You can answer a text while you’re waiting for a phone call, while you’re waiting for your computer to boot.” If he’s too busy to answer a text or a call, he’s probably ignoring you.


He Disappears for Days, Weeks or Months at a Time

This sign is usually self-explanatory but I cannot begin to tell you how many readers of my advice column find themselves in this predicament and think that he still is invested in their relationship and cares about them. Any guy that does not make time for you and pulls a disappearing act on you is not that into you, is seeing other people or is not ready to commit to one person.

You Are Never Invited Over to His Place

Either he is living with someone or is not invested in a relationship with you. Any guy who is interested in a woman will bring her over to his place so she can see his private sanctuary away from the daily grind.