Oh Lord... I've just spent 2.5 years being strung along by a similarly 'confused' man... In my experience it doesn't get better, EVER -- it only gets more hurtful and ends up leaving your self-esteem in shreds.

Charity work, yeah whatever... some people do good works because they know it makes them look good. Either way, whether he means to or not, it IS cruel to keep someone hanging on while you 'wonder' about whether or not you 'really love' them. If he knows you love him and that he doesn't feel the same way, then it is 100% uncool to keep you hanging on with the idea that "maybe one day" he'll wake up and see the light. Please put yourself and your needs first and tell him that while he's making up his mind, you're going to go out and see who else is out there. Because you deserve to be with someone who KNOWS they want to be with you, not who jerks you around like this.

Honestly...I'm with TokyoRose on this one. You deserve someone who knows they want you. Don't wait around for him to 'decide'. I think his behavior says a lot more about him than it does you. He may honestly not know what he wants, and sounds emotionally immature. Usually relationships end the first time for a reason....I think you deserve much better x

When he told me he didn't love me I walked out, I said if you don't love me after one year, you are never going to love me. He tried to stop me saying that he had said the 'wrong thing'
Next day I asked for him to leave some of my property outside his house so I could collect it, I said it in a nice and polite way but he never replied to that message.
It has been a week now and he still has not said anything, no apologies, no trying to fight for me, not giving me my things back. I'm hurting so much, I wish I had never brought the subject up as we would still be together, my chest physically hurts every day, I'm struggling with the rejection but I am also missing him a lot, I can't bare it :(

I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this... it totally, totally sucks and I feel your pain. Nothing hurts as bad as feeling rejected, even if that person is actually doing you a favour. Because someone who doesn't know what they want blows hot and cold -- and being with someone like that for the long term is true misery. When they blow hot, you feel elated. But when they blow cold, you're in agony. Is that any way to live?? For me, no, no, a thousand times NO. No short-term pain, however intense it may be, is too much to pay to get out of a situation that only promises long-term misery. I wish I could say your guy would wake up and see how amazing you are... but if it's been this long and he's just repeating the same patterns, then it's a pretty sure bet that nothing will ever change. You're worth much more than that. Sending hugs...

He knows what he wants its just not you. Your just a holler back girl when he his supply is dry. You deserve better then that. Been there done that got the t shirt. Get rid of him for good !!! He is wasting your valuable time and blocking good authentic love from coming into you life. Don't waste anymore of your life on this looser. I wish you well !! :)