Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
I am feeling very calm and relaxed today. A bit sad but yet still calm. I am wondering why it is so hard for me to see life as it is. That it does not need to be all about a man. A lot of wonderful things that have happened to me in my life had nothing to do with a man. Moments with my two kids. Moments when I stood up for myself. Moments when I was out in nature all my myself and felt this overwhelming amazement. Why is it that I limit myself? Why is it that I cannot do the things that really inspire me? The things that bring me the greatest joy?
To do these things seems like such a chore! It is as if I have to force myself to get up and do these things that I KNOW will bring me great happiness and peace. But yet I sit in self pity and sadness over stuff I don't have. Like a great relationship with a man. Like a great circle of girlfriends. Like a prosperous job. etc. All these things are completely attainable. But yet I sit and ponder. Why?
Maybe today is just a day to reflect on all this. One glorious thing I am feeling is the "no desire" to actually be with anyone. I am happy to just sit with myself today. I guess this is really huge progress. To be able to sit and not feel anxious. To be able to sit and ponder my life, without being judgemental or critical of myself. To sit and not have to be excited or happy.....But just to sit calmly.
I think sometimes we miss out on the best moments of our lives which are just so simple we cannot believe they will give us joy. Today I will enjoy this simple moment and really feel how wonderful it is to just be still with me.
To do these things seems like such a chore! It is as if I have to force myself to get up and do these things that I KNOW will bring me great happiness and peace. But yet I sit in self pity and sadness over stuff I don't have. Like a great relationship with a man. Like a great circle of girlfriends. Like a prosperous job. etc. All these things are completely attainable. But yet I sit and ponder. Why?
Maybe today is just a day to reflect on all this. One glorious thing I am feeling is the "no desire" to actually be with anyone. I am happy to just sit with myself today. I guess this is really huge progress. To be able to sit and not feel anxious. To be able to sit and ponder my life, without being judgemental or critical of myself. To sit and not have to be excited or happy.....But just to sit calmly.
I think sometimes we miss out on the best moments of our lives which are just so simple we cannot believe they will give us joy. Today I will enjoy this simple moment and really feel how wonderful it is to just be still with me.
It is so good to read you have found that place. You have discovered what it is like to be in the moment..I try and strive for it and have good days and bad ones. Yesterday afternoon, I felt so bad, I decided not to stay at home and mope. Instead I went and got myself some nice bubble bath, a pizza and some chocolate dessert and then the next two hours just pampering myself. It got me out of my doldrums pretty quickly...
I completely get what you say about limiting ourselves when we could be experiencing those moments of joy as I like to call them. Much love.
I noticed a change in myself when I started volunteering. I haven't volunteered in awhile, but I was helping at a soup kitchen and volunteering at the Humane Society thrift store. It really helped me to see just how fortunate I really am.
I also struggle with the whole "needing a man to make life better" syndrome. I've always been that way. I always thought that everyone that had a man was automatically happy. But that's just not true. I know a lot of people who have a man and are not happy and I was one of those girls too.
I hope that you continue to feel this calmness and know that there is light after darkness. It sometimes doesn't feel that way. But maybe we just need to believe it.