And GENEROUS ;-)

Healthy coping skills.

courteous , mature

Good in bed. Ha ha!

One thing that I would suggest Anglevette is to remove the words "not" from any of your descriptors and replace it with an affirmative adjective.
"not demanding" COULD BE FOR EXAMPLE "accepting"
As pointed out by a friend recently, we get what we ask for and we also get what we don't ask for. In other words, the subconscious does not understand negatives.
Good exercise.
Include everything that is important to you.

Those are good additions. Lol @ creo yeah I wish good in bed. But not a must have lol. Very true about the negative deal. I was having a hard time tryin to not use negative words. Keeping it as positive as I could but yeah I changed that one. Maybe the not critical would be relative to the supportive? Hmmmm
My other exercise is what I like and dislike about myself and how I think the opposite sex sees me. Having harder time with that one. This one is fun and figure it would help some of you out on what you really want in a relationship. Sad day for me tho and tough week. My kids left today for the summer. Won't be back til August.

This exercise is not just about external relationships. it also identifies the qualities that we need to be giving ourselves internally. Compassion toward self. Trust of self. Honesty to self. In order to have healthy external relationships, you must first have a love affair with yourself. Much love everyone.

Very good point Rayvyn--

that's a big 10-4 on the good in bed. no chemistry = blah.

I would add..."aware"...we need someone that is aware or conscious of their actions so they know when they are not treating us the way we deserve. However, I agree with Rayvyn 100%...we can't except the other person to be aware when we aren't. We need to love ourselves first before we can ever love anyone else.

Er..the good in bed bit isnt a problem for me, I have landed some awesome 'Catches' from Military Officers to 24 yr old brazilians to pro-football players over the years, .... BUT I want all the other stuff which is so much harder to find, let alone recognise as WWLTM .... compassion, loyalty, concern, love, trust, honesty, faithfulness , integrity, congruity etc.... ((((((hugs ))))))))) 2 Butterfly

I do agree that you need to have a love affair with yourself in order to find it in another. I love myself even tho I may not dress up or take care of myself as much or as well as I should. I am slowly working at it such as losing weight (25lbs since April 2) or I need a haircut but been putting it off.

The in bed action well I have only had 3 partners in my life and the last one was for 9 years. I am 31 and can honestly say I have never had a real good sexual relationship with anyone. My ex referred to me as a Fridgerator. Cold and heartless.

Anglvette...you can't let what your ex said mean anything to you. I'm sure my ex-husband said (continues to say) the same thing about me but honestly I didn't want to have sex with him and at this point I don't care what he thinks or says. To him it was my "duty" as his wife. Gosh...I hated it with him so much I would cover my face with my pillow...still didn't stop him. How sick is that?!?! I've only had 4 partners in my life...the last two being complete mistakes and basically hookups that I regret completely. However, I strongly feel that if we truly care and are passionate about the one we're with then the activities in bed are spectacular. Out of the 4...only one was like that for me. Unfortunately, he was the one that sent me to the brink of insanity these past couple of years...so to me sex, even if it awesome, isn't worth the heartache and hurt the rest of the time.

Congratulations on the recent weight loss too!! This is the perfect time for you to concentrate on doing those things that make you feel beautiful...don't let yourself become your worst critic! I'm guilty of doing this too but we have to learn to love ourselves! We're worthy of our own love...much more worthy than the losers we cry over!! :-)

Oh I don't let his words resonate within me. I'm darker skinned, olive complexion and he used to say all kinda of things. "if you get any darker you would be Mexican" or "if you get any darker we won't be able to be together". Lol. I could care less. I know I'm beautiful and I think he just got jealous becuse of the attention I would get. I laughed when he called me Fridgerator cause if he really knew how to turn me on he wouldn't have been able to handle it lol. :). Thanks for the weight loss support. I am tryin to keep it up and hopefully get down to 170 this summer. I want to go skydiving and when I get to 170 that's my gift to myself. Me becoming my own worst critic I can believe. Good days and bad days. Been trying to hope before bed that the next day is better than the day before. And today it seemed to work.

girls, men can be taught how to please, and its really nice when they do.

my tops are:

trust
adventurous
respect
responsibility
intimacy