That is really unfortunate. But maybe he shows his affection in other ways. If you really need this from him sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him.

i think this is an excuse really, i can see a man not noticing that you need affection, like a kiss goodbye, but blatantly saying no, well thats different. most men, even those grown up apart from affection, will still be affectionate with their significant other if the woman tries to warm up to him. there is probably something he is not telling you, men dont like to talk as much as we do when they have a problem.
instead of asking him, or trying to initiate a conversation, try ignoring him for a week or so, not totally or like you are picking a fight. just go to the bathroom when he goes to leave, or basically make him come to you.
if you act like there is a problem then he will fight harder to hide it. if you act like everything is just fine and you are happy as can be he may feel deprived of the attention that you give him and seek you out. it may take a few days before he comes around, but he probably will. men like being ignored even less than women do. ( but they wont show it.)

ive tried everything , even begging for him to hug and kiss me more, nothing!its hard to want sex, when i dont get anything pre-sex, oh and i almost always make the first move for sex. Intimacy issues?

Its actually pretty common, ive been through this story, and heard it many times.
like i said hon, stop trying so hard, you are wasting alot of energy. i know its hard and you feel alone.
but really, just stop trying. maybe when you arent there trying he will come around.

i do sometimes stop, he doesnt notice, in fact he's happy if i dont want to be with him, so he can do what he wants. what kind of marriage is that?

well, you have some things to think of and go through yourself then.
trying gets you no where but heartache, and i know you feel you love this man so much, but you need to push that away and look at yourself. YOU are what is important right now, not him.
he should be paying attention to you, and loving you in return, not pushing you away.
it sounds harsh, but you will hear alot of people saying "leave him"
usually because WWLTM need to learn to leave the men that hurt them, need to learn to start a new life, and not live pining over a man who will never return the affection. if he is willing to work with you on your road to better yourself, then great, but it doesnt sound like he is.
things are easier said than done, everyone has their own bottom, you have to find it for y ou, and find out what you can and cant live with. what you want your life to be like.

Do You think there's something he's not telling you? Money issues? somebody else? does he leave alot? i'm just trying to figure out why he treats you this way. I know when I had an affair I was actually nice to my husband because i felt so guilty! Hang in there you'll get to the bottom of this, a women can only take this for so long!

Hi Honor... you say that he's happy when you're not around him... :( that's really sad. Can I ask you this? Was he EVER affectionate towards you? I can't see you marrying this guy and having children with him (those are your adorable boys in the pic?), if he's always been this way. I think many of us who are here are feeling raw... a little 'out of control' with our emotions because we are not getting what we deserve...

LOVE, RESPECT, HONOR... just a few to mention...

Have you asked him if he'd be willing to go to a counsellor...not just for the two of you... but for your whole family?

reading back over this, and some of the things i wrote... its so hard to do what you know you should....
cause they dont start out that way... or maybe there are sighns that we miss... but it hurts.
the hardest part is accepting that it is not our fault.... but it is our fault if we choose to KEEP getting hurt... because we dont or cannot leave.. im going through this right now, and i want nothing more than to call him and beg him to come home....