Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
I am noticing that even in bad situations if they somewhat go MY way I am happy, but if they suddenly change and go a different direction than I expected I immediately go to fear. Just because they do not go my way does not always mean that they turn out bad either. I just go there. The unknown is just so damn scary to me. Why is this??? Why can't I just have faith that everything is working out just as it should? It is the best way possible, just maybe not my way.
Also why is it that I think that if a guy goes away and I don't live with him than he is gone forever? This is crazy because it has NEVER been like this. They are always around for a while. It is the ALL or NOTHING thinking and I hate it because it just causes so much fear in me!!!!!!
Also why is it that I think that if a guy goes away and I don't live with him than he is gone forever? This is crazy because it has NEVER been like this. They are always around for a while. It is the ALL or NOTHING thinking and I hate it because it just causes so much fear in me!!!!!!
Someone once remarked on a former relationship of mine, and I think it may ring true for you, too: "He was your security." That is why you are fearful right now, you think youhave lost your secure-ness. But you are secure! You have your self, and it is your self that matters. Try to reflect on that. No one but your higher power can be your true security. This is something is is developed with your self, over time. I am sure you feel terribly anxious and afraid, Shani. But maybe, just maybe, this is an opportunity to turn inward and be secure with YOU for a change. I know you can.
Maybe you can give yourself 1 month. Reflect. Assess. Be good to you. And then rethink Him. I guarantee you will feel differenty with some time.
Wishing you clarity~