miss mom, take heart... this is all part of your addiction....it's simply a tricky little avoidance tactic your little brain has come up with.....

are you willing to stop obsessing??really dig deep and think about that question....i know your reaction is probably like YES OF COURSE!! what is up with finn?? but really think about it, sleep on it.

are you willing to stop obsessing???

I NEED to

What exactly are you looking for on those sites. ...A partner. ...or u feel lonely not u don't have enough social interactions.?

Attention. Affection. Validation.

miss mom, i need to me means you want to but you are not willing to change what you are doing yet. i mean do whatever it takes to get well.......

we all need to but is your heart open and willing to go to any lengths to get a hold of this??

there is absolutely no judgment. if you are not willing today you may be willing tomorrow in a month or after another bad relationship.....

we're here for you no matter what.....

just suggesting you get really clear on this question..... as deep inside as you can get. as honest as you can be within yourself.

i fyou ARE completely willing to surrender and do everything possible...there is much help for you.. until then just try to have compassion for yourself, realize you have an addiction and this has nothing to do with willpower.....be kind and wait...when you are crawling on your knees begging for help, you'll be willing to do whatever is necessary...........

You are distracting yourself, Manu of us do that, we eat, watch tons of television or whatever we find that softens that painful feeling of rejection, loneliness, heartbreak...

I check social media manically sometimes, but I realize it just makes me feel worse so I've been trying to go for walks etc..be outside..

Hang in there

Thanks everyone.
Bubbles, yes - I'm trying to replace the good feelings I had with my ex.
I just wanna feel that way again :(
I know I'll get there.
It's just those terrible moments when it just feels so hopeless and I miss him so much. Only - it's really not him I miss. It's the promise..the prospect of a different life. A life with a companion.
I go on those sites in search for taht same feeling I had with him and I get sad and desperate when I can't find it.

I too have been there Missmom. Now I realise the only way to get that feeling permanently is to find it inside myself. And I am finding it more and more. Just simple acts of self care like cooking a healthy meal, cleaning my room, a moment of laughter with my son, cuddling up with the cat or just even walking out of the supermarket with just the things I went in for...I get lots of pleasure out of. I try to be mindful when I am doing these things and bring myself back to the present moment when I notice myself drifting away..Each day that I know I am not doing anything to cause myself harm are good days for me....It is a long journey and the fear of the unknown is debilitating, but when you reach that place inside of you, it makes it all worthwhile..Much love to you.

Thank you Lucidak. All true. I have those raw moments of joy and clarity more and more.
My son gives me so much joy. My family, my work, my life..even my cozy little apartment.
Yesterday I bought a pair of comfy soft sweats and when I put them on I felt pure bliss and comfort.
Little things :)
It's those moments when I slip and don't feel or express my gratitude that I lose sight of who I am, who I love. And it is then that I start to look elsewhere for vailidation.
WRONG WRONG WRONG.

thank you