Today, the first day in a long while, I have felt a little off balance. My rage, anger and some self criticism popped up today. I have remained NC since April. However, this supposed door that I supposedly broke while catching him cheating is still a sore subject. Since my ex N lives in his mother's house (grandmother actually but deceased), his mother emailed me asking me to just pay for the door and that she has been sucked dry by her son. At this point, I refused to email her back, it seemed every communication I had with her was somehow getting back to him. Thus, it was breaking my NC rule. He would ignite and send me another email through my business website (which I can't block).

Meanwhile, I reached out to a former girlfriend of his on FB to ask her about some facts, just for edification and found out he really screwed her over, too. Too much to go into here, but nonetheless, when I reached out to her she was very open to share. I told her many of the things he did to me and she said, he is dangerous. She then totally took it upon herself to send this new girl of his a message on FB telling her what a liar he is and to watch out. I did not ask her to do this nor would I do it because I knew he had made me out to be the psycho ex girl and no way would she believe me. In any case, the girl I was communicating with asks me to send her proof that the new girlfriend is asking for proof. I contemplated this and thought well if I was in her shoes I would want the information. So I did, I shared emails, texts and even an email from his mother stating what a liar and user he is. Apparently, he told his new girlfriend that I wouldn't let him alone and that he broke up with me, not the case, I dumped his ass. Anyway, he has convinced her that I am the unstable one. UGHHHH. I could care less if he is with her, I just feel bad for his next victim. New girlfriend was warned by old girlfriend (not me) and she still is with him. Isn't sad how manipulative they are.

Earlier in the week, I receive a text from his mom, saying when did the animosity start between us and all she was trying to do was keep this from going to court. She became upset because I passed this proof on to the new girlfriend and she felt betrayed. I got very mad and told her to call me that I would not text her or email her. She called and we talked for two hours, and once again, he is lying to her like always. Of course she proceeds to tell me that the new girl, the one I caught him with, is now living with him (remember this is her house so I guess he can do whatever he wants, Mom allows it.) I pulled out all stops and tried to tell her as gently as possible that her son is an evil sociopathic liar and that she is enabling him. She said she wasn't giving him anymore money, however she lets him live for free in this house she could be renting and she pays all the bills. In any case, she asks me not to tell my exn we talked. Again, I said I don't talk to him and I won't. Wouldn't you know, I received an email thru my website blasting me for talking about him and how evil I am and how I am a pathetic user blah blah blah. Basically a complete projection of who he is. He even had the nerve to compare me to a stripper who does coke (ironically his new girl is a stripper at a fancy mens club in our town.. how funny is that).. At first, I was so mad and wanted to just tell him to f off...but once again, I refrained and said, NO WAY. I am not fixing some freaking door and I am not responding to his nonsense. Because he says it doesn't make it true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The facts are:
1. HE LIED FOR 8 months (pathologically) about everything!!!!!!!! Total fraud and con man!
2, I break up, he obsessively tries to get me back thousands of texts calls emails...I refrain for 2 months
3. Two months later I take him back, he says he never lied to hurt me (never owned it)
4. Three months later he is caught cheating and STILL lying...
5. I break up with him for the final time.. I am pissed and hurt that I allowed him back.. But so glad because I have gotten rid of him.. YEAH. (well i thought)
6. Stupid door thing is his way of trying to manipulate the situation, make me pay for his mistakes, NO WAY.

And Mr N thinks I used him and then I am sick and pathological.. HA HA.. So the reason I post this, is I realized how truly messed up his thinking is. He is so twisted that he takes a totally innocent person in the worst time of my life and tries to make me into the villian.. First, he was mad because I kept NC, so then he started with this door allegation which I refused again to answer. Now I opened a can of worms because I shared the truth with someone who thought it was imperative that his new girlfriend know the truth...and now he is MAD!!!! Oh well Jack a** you made your bed you can lie in it... My feeling is that these guys are truly predators and they need to be stopped. Perhaps I should not had forwarded the information, but in my gut I think I did the right thing. His mask is being peeled off and he can't stand it...Live with it RJG you have hurt and destroyed too many people and I was the wrong GIRL to mess with...