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WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.

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fitmom29
fitmom29
Hello everyone. I've only wrote on here once before but I'm always reading and it does help me. I've been separated but unfortunately still living in the same house because of financial reasons for just about two years now. I've dated one selfish ass after the next. I've made a decision to be on my own until at least the papers get filed. I've had some issues with alcohol and was in AA for about a year and stopped going when I started dating this last guy. I know I have a fear of being alone but I also know that it's the best thing for me right now. Life is a bit challenging right now. I have got to get stronger for my kids sake. I really wish my soon to be ex would just leave already. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. Any advice?
goingup
goingup
Hi fitmom. My advice is...
-stay single. Use the time to work on your relationship with yourself and getting to know who you are better.
-get back into AA.
-persevere until your ex leaves.

Best wishes,

goingup
artgrrl
artgrrl
Hi fitmom

Advice: don't buy wine or you'll drink it, lol. I'm not an alcoholic per-say but I sure will rootin' tootin' drink it if it's in the house, so I only buy it once in a while.

I know that feeling when the ex still lives there. My ex and I did an "in-house separation" for about a year and I seriously advise against it. The sooner you can get on your own the better, it's like getting bad energy out of the house.

And, I agree with goingup that it's best to stay single until you know yourself better.

Get the ex out of the house! you will totally get the the negative energy out of there. In fact, that's probably why you are drinking.

Best wishes girl. Welcome to the site.

Artgrrl
kdeliaw
kdeliaw
I feel I am going through this same situation. I have already filed the divorce and waiting on it to be completely processed and my husband is still living with me. He always tells me what to do, when to clean, orders my oldest child who is not his to clean the dishes, clean her room, take the trash out, clean the bathrooms, he doesn't let her or me have piece. I have told him many times to just stop getting on our case and I am pregnant by him by the way. Four months ago we thought we would try to make the relationship work again and I not believing he would stop before he finished he just completed the task before it was a few seconds. He never cared about my feelings and I always took his orders and commands. If I try to defend myself or say please be patient. I will do the dishes when I get a chance. He says I am being dis respectful and I shouldn't be having an attitude with him. Well, He confirmed with me today again like always that our relationship is over and there is no hope of fixing our relationship. I only want to be held, hugged, comforted, and told it is going to be okay. I worry about the baby and being on my own with him after the baby is born, and the pain is soo hard seeing him every day. I do but I don't look forward to the time her will finally be out on his own.