Hi, I am not familiar with the whole experience of your relationship with him, but I think about what you wrote about him cheating on you with his fiancee.
Why did he need 2 women? He could have broken up with you and then start with her. This issue is going to come up in their relationship too. Because he did not work on himself by himself before he moved on.

I am sorry your closure from him is in the form of being a witness to his happiness with another woman, but I can assure you there are a lot of things you don't know and are not caught on tape.

People who have respect to others respect everybody and don't prefer one over the other to respect. But there are people who test boundaries and self -respect and you show other how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

oh my dear misslemos. i had a similar experience. so freaking painful.

do you have a list besides his cheating on you of all the crap he pulled?? read it constantly. it's tempting to go back into that fantasy thinking where she is getting a better version of him but it's a lie honey sister. i promise you it's only a matter of time b/f he reveals himself....

he hasn't changed. she is not better or more deserving or getting better treatment than you...

if he cheated on your with her she is sloppy seconds. and he will cheat on her as well. cheating has to do with problems in the relationship and theirs is no exception. seeing them happy i understand is so painful.

how are you doing today?? that was two days ago.....

That news sounds like it hit you hard...Sorry for the pain you are feeling. I can only echo what other people have posted. They are in the honeymoon phase. If he hasn't looked at his own issues he is going to take all of this with him into this relationship. That will include the cheating and lying. I wondered how you got this information. Maybe its time to stop torturing yourself by looking at his current life. Someone said to me this week, for every minute you are thinning of your ex its a minute less you are investing in yourself. Be kind to you and don't give your power away to him. Best revenge is good living!

It sounds like you're in an unhappy place right now. I absolutely agree with everything these ladies said--particularly the part about the fact that because someone else has him he appears more valuable. But yes, it's quite possible that he will eventually devalue her the same way he devalued her.

I also agree that you need to make a list of all of the things he did that were hateful and mean. You need to focus on that and tell yourself that you deserve better, because you really do!

love xo