Women who Love too Much Community Group

WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.

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lisa30 09/24/2016

hi everyone,

ive just joined this group after starting to read woman who love too much, my fiancé of 3 years left me two weeks ago whilst I'm 21 weeks pregnant because he's unhappy but not told me with what, now he's saying it's the house and pressure of our wedding that was supposed to be in 3 months time and he has tried to talk to me - but he hasn't, because if he had I would have changed anything, coz that's the way I am!

i have come from a dysfunctional family background and I am 10 years clean, I'm struggling to sit with my emotions, feel like I can't cope without him - all signs of an unhealthy care taking role, I know he has shown some affection but I would always have to hen peck him for it unless we has drunk and he does drink too much - how can I become more comfortable without being with him??

how can I stop feeling like I don't need him in my life??

all I can think about is ways to get him back, it scares me how much I feel dependant on him - thanks for reading and please advise x

QueenBee 09/26/2016

Hi, what you just went through is very big and the fact that you are seeking help and support is a very good sign. He is not only you fiance but the father of the baby you are carrying. And he left. So it is completely normal to need him and not feeling comfortable without him. I would seek counselling if I were you and if there is a support group you can attend where you live I think it would help with keeping you stable. It is about you now and not about waiting for him to decide what will become of your life.

lisa30 09/26/2016

Thanks QueenBee, I have started therapy the day after he left, but I feel so impatient with wanting these feelings to go, I've tried to look for support groups in my area and there doesn't seem to be any x

QueenBee 09/26/2016

Focusing on the here and now at this time is very important as you have big decisions to make about your life, and the emotions can make it harder but not if monitored and channeled for productive things. I believe healing comes in all shapes and sizes and experiences and maybe this is your journey to healing even though you did not plan this.

cutieface48 10/01/2016

Hey Hun! I know 100% how you feel. I can only suggest to you what was suggested to me and that is to refocus on yourself. Try a new class or go out with friends or do something fun just for yourself. It's absolutely horrible that he has run out on you and it makes no sense! My boyfriend did the same thing 2 months after we moved in together. No problems in our relationship he just took off. I understand how you are feeling and I can only say you need to try and be happy with who you are and get in a better place.

I hope he comes to his senses and realizes that he can't possibly live without you. Try to be strong and take things a day at a time.

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