I don't know but doing things I feel proud seems to really do a lot for me.

Something that helped me a lot is listening to Louise Hay's Audio Book on YouTube "The Power is Within You.

I think you just have to decide that you will accept yourself completely with all the things that you wish we're different and be soft and gentle with yourself. I think also being disciplined with yourself, always putting your best foot forward and doing things that make you proud of yourself help..

I struggle so much with liking let alone loving myself, especially because all these painful experiences make me feel like an idiot/loser..

I am trying hard to just say; ok, this is how I was made, and all I can do is try my best to be a good, kind person and accept myself completely.

I think it also starts with your mindset. If you constantly are talking negatively to yourself then you aren't loving yourself. I noticed over the past few weeks that I don't talk badly about myself or in my head anymore and that shows me that I am on the right path. I don't tell myself that I am a 34 yr old loser with no husband and no kids. Instead I tell myself that I am where I am now for a reason and I can't wait to have a husband and kids. If you can get your mind right first then you can work from there!

Hi Miss,

For me, I think loving myself unfolded in many different forms. The most important thing is to choose to love yourself. It means loving yourself despite all the thoughts that say you cant love yourself. You have to choose to love the parts of yourself that you feel are unlovable. Also telling the truth to myself and to people I trusted (being vulnerable) has helped me to gain a sense of self love. Lastly, no more trying to fit in. I try to consciously be aware of not puffing myself up or making myself small. I set an intention to show up fully in all situations.

If we are WWLTM do we know how to love - I think I do. So the question I ask myself is this. What do I do to show others that I love and care for them. It could be being a good listener, affirming, nurturing my list could go on. In stead of smothering someone with all this I think about how I can listen to myself, affirm myself, nurture myself the list goes on....I have the knowledge, ability and capability to do this, its believing that Im worth it...

ok. So, according to all your beautiful replies, I have been doing it right.
What I like to add is compassion. Or maybe someone said it, sorry. I mean compassion for others. I feel at my best when I've made a difference in someone's day. When I've managed to warm someone's heart or ease their worry somehow. I feel like literally hugging myself when that happens. Sheer JOY.

Thank you for your responses. I do love myself. I do. My relationship with myself : I guess were on a break right now. lol

But hey guess what? My love for myself is everlasting, It just gets ill sometimes.
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These are great responses. I would only reiterate affirmations! Louise Hay does have some great ones. She even has a deck of power thought cards that you can post around the house to remind you. The most basic one I feel, is "I love and approve of myself". which would fit your situation really well. Good Luck and have fun!!

hi mama!

i feel like what helped me love myself was
1. tell the truth--own my own shit. fully accept that my resentments are mine alone.you spot it you got it. blame squarely on my own shoulders.
2. learning about and practicing SELF- acceptance and SELF- validation
3. becoming my best cheerleader stop seeking approval from others.
4. doing things i say I'm going to do. not doing things i say i'm not going to do. keeping my word to myself.
5. above all else like you said learning the art of self compassion.
6. filling my own hole with healthy stuff.
7. changing my deeply held stories and beliefs about myself and my history and my abilities.
8. forgiveness of god myself my family everyone.

once we love ourselves that will automatically be reflected in the universe and we will have developed boundaries to not tolerate lesser treatment than our self respect commands. not demands but commands.

I love it! Thank you Finn!

Every day is a better day than the one before :)
During my daily lunch time nature hike through my beautiful city today, I heard myself laughing whole heartedly at something one of my dear colleagues/friend said. It felt so good. I haven't laughed like that in a while and I missed that feeling, that cramp in my side. :)