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WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.

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Help Me Make It Through The Night

solo60
solo60
Tonight, for the first time in two years, I have been able to see that loving this man means I would probably be signing up for years of pain. The only thing that matters to him is him. I don't care why he is the way he is anymore. I've spent as much time as I want to spend learning about him. I need to make it through the night. Please God, help me remember that I am worth more and I deserve better.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Solo,

I promise you this is the most important realization you will ever have. It might hurt A LOT now, but it won't compare to banging your head against the same wall for years to come.

You certainly deserve more then a seriel cheater. We all do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
yea its sosososo hard, it so sad when a man can not, CAN NOT see pass himself...but i know id rather have my own company and feeling free...instead of being in pain and trying to please some clown lol..hang in there GF...you are worthly..we all are..
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is too hard, but if you made a desicion keep going ......I have 2 months of NC and at least I have some peace inside my heart, hurts a lot .......but is better to confront the reality and learn from this experience......than spend all your life waiting for him to change and realise what he has in front of him.....
You deseve better.
akglondon
akglondon
Solo60 I agree with all of the above. Susy is right...this is the biggest realisation that you will ever have - that sudden awareness that things just aren't right and that you want things to change for YOU.

It may be painful right now but the more you sit with and work through these uncomfortable feelings the more you will start to learn about what YOU want, that YOU are important and to start looking after YOU.

Ultimately we are all on this journey to heal ourselves and to start living the lives that we all deserve.

Keep going...you are doing just great!
solo60
solo60
The lesson from Beauty and The Beast is one of the best passages in WWL2M
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think alot about how sick it made me. The things I did, the way I felt, the shame, constantly feeling gray, sad, dark, anxious, unhappy, out of control and the list goes on and on. For me, being sober has made the journey dealing with my codependency much easier. How I think, feel, deal and heal. I dont drown my sorrows or live in the pity pot, I process my hurt, use my logical brain, repeat important lessons to myself and most of all I tell myself how proud I am for these accomplishments. Sure I might miss little things, sleeping in his arms was the big one, but not going to bed every night with heavy thoughts and anxiety is more comforting to me than anything. I bought myself an adorable stuffed pig, now I sleep with it to remind me of the pig I used to sleep with.