I was still in this "relationship" been struggling a few of you know a little background. If you don't feel free to ask. We were in a LDR over the last year and usually once a month I would make the drive to his place 4 hours away and spend the weekend. We were in a relationship for 7 years when I left last year in July and this last year completely doing the LDR deal. I chose to leave due to his inability to see the problems and help fix them with me. I realized this past summer that he has NPD. And the further I dove into that world the more I recognized how much it really affected me. Low self esteem, verbally abused and it was becoming more apparent as the days go by. My Birthday was last Saturday. I didn't do anything too special, I don't have many friends here where I am at now. My father had to go out of town so I took myself to the Hard Rock Casino in the evening played a bit and left and while I was leaving I HAD to call HIM for my Birthday. I didn't hear from him all day so here it was 8pm calling him just to hear him tell me Happy Birthday, and then we got into an argument over how much he has tried to make this work out. He is the one who gave me the ultimatum about moving back. Told me I had til Thanksgiving to make up my mind. I told him I wanted to hear a game plan on what we were going to do when I moved back and that I was to move back because he loved me. He seems to have more hatred then love and it comes thru in conversation. I emailed him a long letter last week explaining how much I loved him and that I overlook things I could hold onto so we could move forward but apparently me standing up to him and moving out has "hurt" him too much and that he can't trust me. So today I called him to check in cause he's been sick the last few days and was talking about the next few weekends coming to visit him. (he's never came to visit me) and he asked when I was moving back. Told him again that if he can tell me that he loves me and that not matter what comes our way that we would handle it together that I would. His reply was well I can't do that and I said thats all I wanted from him was him being open with me that he loved me. He said that he's tired of MY games and said have a nice life and hung up. I know he's waiting for me to call. Beg him to stay with him, that we can work this out and for me to apologize as always but I am not going to. All I can hope for is that someday he'll look back and realize what he's lost. That someday he'll understand that my love for him was more that what he'll get from anyone else, it was more genuine and true then anything he'll find out there. I am so upset but I have 2 kids that need dinner and I can't let them down.