that is so sad. and so honest. and i've been there.

the truth is is that there is nothing wrong with you sunny you just cannot see that yet. you are perfect the way you are you just don't make the healthiest decisions and choices. the beauty of that is is as you get stronger you will......

"the work" is really just what you're already doing....being willing and pursuing. and then patience. endurance. sunny you are already doing the work. just remember that the work is learning to find compassion for yourself. compassion and acceptance are the things that brought me peace and healing.........

if any recovery called for one day at a time it would be this no??

did you check out your values?? is that what is overwhelming?? we don't have them all. pick your top two and begin working on them. pick one step of one value and that's enough.....we don't have all of the values....i picked 3 a long time ago to work on and then dropped it. it's helpful to get to know what's important in life that's all....your personal values or his petty bullshit?? that's all it aaas meant to be. if it's not helpful drop it and move on..

sunny we love ya!!

thanks Finn…..xxx
luvya2 !!!

Don't let it overwhelm you... you're just aiming to understand how you got where you got to, not to be some sort of perfect person! Take it slow, two steps forward, one step back, and most of all be nice to yourself: for every "issue" you dig up, maybe you could also dig up something you like about yourself? Bon courage, it's not easy, but you'll see it gets easier!

I think there is a big difference between someone who is on the road to healing and acknowledging their flaws and is realistic about who they are compared to someone who is still living in the throes of love/relationship/other addictions.

I think it's normal to feel worse when we are doing an honest inventory of ourselves...I believe Norwood says this in the book. It takes tremendous courage to soberly look at ourselves and our true motivations when the truth is not pretty. It really does.

It is very overwhelming but please don't give up. One thing I like to do when I feel overwhelmed by my love addiction is to 'give' my problem away, I say to myself "I'm giving my problems to the universe," or to nature or god, or something like that. It helps me, at least, take away some of the burden. I'd suggest to try this and see if it helps you feel less overwhelmed or not.

Big hugs, you will get there, don't give up x