Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
The final stage of my journey, begins here.
It's been a couple of years since I was in my relationship. I was married to a man who came into my life to teach me some valuable lessons. Looking back, I see exactly why I had to go through such a challenging relationship. Life's lessons are very clear to me, now.
Forgiveness, came as such a surprise to me, when I learned how to do it. I was constantly swinging back and forth, emotionally, between anger and hurt, and finding myself never able to get over him. Then one day it dawned on me, you can't forgive whilst hanging on to negative feelings. Forgiveness comes from love. So, I started loving him. Not directly, just in my heart. And sure enough, it worked. I can honestly say, I have forgiven him and love him, though he may never know it.
I have never felt more healed than I do, now. Love heals everything.
It's been a couple of years since I was in my relationship. I was married to a man who came into my life to teach me some valuable lessons. Looking back, I see exactly why I had to go through such a challenging relationship. Life's lessons are very clear to me, now.
Forgiveness, came as such a surprise to me, when I learned how to do it. I was constantly swinging back and forth, emotionally, between anger and hurt, and finding myself never able to get over him. Then one day it dawned on me, you can't forgive whilst hanging on to negative feelings. Forgiveness comes from love. So, I started loving him. Not directly, just in my heart. And sure enough, it worked. I can honestly say, I have forgiven him and love him, though he may never know it.
I have never felt more healed than I do, now. Love heals everything.
I still have much love in my heart for my ex of 30 years. He however was so hurt by my divorcing him that it has put a big rift between our family. I realized that after reading the book "Women Who Love To Much"
our relationship never stood chance because I went in with way to much baggage from my past.
He was a "good" man, but would never try to listen and understand me and how my past was always right therewith me. HIs opinion was "it happened,get over it and move on" I tried many times to get him to go to counseling with me, he always refused (unless I wanted to go to "sex" counseling) That seemed to be his answer to everything. Unfortunately it does not work that way.
Lol, just writing this to you now, made me realize I am going to paste it and expound to where I am now and see if I get any helpful responses. Again, I am happy for you for holding on to love.. Keep the faith!! :-)