Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
OK girls, I did it!
I found a therapist.
Its gonna bust me financially but Im committed to this.
First meeting was today. She seems ok, and I think we will get along.
I was hoping to go every other week but she says to do the work I need to go every week - do you agree?!
It seems sensible and she's the expert, don't want to be cynical but ya know its a lot of money!
I didn't tell my husband and was hoping to keep this to myself for a while but the best time for her is on a Monday morning, I know he will be busy in the office then so he won't prevent me from going or anything….but it will get awkward to explain after a while!
onwards and upwards!
Its a start!!!
xxx
I found a therapist.
Its gonna bust me financially but Im committed to this.
First meeting was today. She seems ok, and I think we will get along.
I was hoping to go every other week but she says to do the work I need to go every week - do you agree?!
It seems sensible and she's the expert, don't want to be cynical but ya know its a lot of money!
I didn't tell my husband and was hoping to keep this to myself for a while but the best time for her is on a Monday morning, I know he will be busy in the office then so he won't prevent me from going or anything….but it will get awkward to explain after a while!
onwards and upwards!
Its a start!!!
xxx
you deserve this sunny!!! so super proud that you have taken this step forward for yourself!!! great to see!! keep it up and don't worry about him....or explaining it to him, this is your life. you have a right to go to therapy if you choose!! you don't have to share anything about it.....
it's only an hour a week. that is your time......you have a right to that.
x
It paralyses me.
SO I really want to be able to cut the mind-chatter and focus on me, its so difficult with that racket going on in my head and all the anxiety I feel.
I am pretty sure he has Co-D issues too, so what happens when I get working on ME and he still stays the same? I am hoping to be able to think more clearly about him at least., and hopefully find the strength to do something positive for myself.
Its scary.
I think this lady is ok, Im not good with overly sympathetic nodding listeners….!!! but she seems ok.
I suppose I am hoping to either find the strength to get away from him, or the knowledge and peace to be happy with him.
Not sure how you fund therapy in the States but in the UK its £40 for 50 minutes.
I sold a painting for £500 but was hoping to save it but this is a more valuable investment. ME!
That not everyone hurts like I do when their partner is thoughtless or hurtful.
I didn't realise this was different for me. I thought everyone went through what I do.
so I really have no idea what 'happy' is or what a fulfilling relationship should be.
I really have no idea these days.
My second husband was good for me though. He was my champion, he encouraged me to do everything I wanted, he cheered me on. We came unstuck as he wasn't interested in sex and I wanted that in my relationship.
He still is my best friend now. He never lets me down and loves me still.
SO I can use this as my measure at least.
x