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sibly
sibly
days are passing since the talk we had where he said he wanted to focus un his studies... and then acted affectionate towards me.. he just tried to confuse me.
after that talk I felt like a phase ended but his kind words just... opened that wound. I know we are not getting back mainly because he doesn't want to and he's focused in more important things, things I should be focusing on.. but then why am I just feeling sad? I feel sad if I see him and I feel sad if I don't .. I don't want to keep with this
artgrrl
artgrrl
Sibly, how did he act affectionately towards you? I mean, was it a smile and kind words or was it of a romantic nature (physical contact which could give "false hope")? It's possible that he either doesn't realize that certain actions can give false hope, or it gives him a feeling of power to ignite hope in someone and then draw away. Or maybe he is simply not aware or maybe he is drawn to people who aren't chasing him. It could be any number of things, but I read somewhere lately that sometimes you just have to take people at their word, that if they say they aren't interested they aren't, and move on to someone who IS interested. I know, it fucking sucks when your heart is broken, but if they ain't interested then they're really unavailable. Cut your losses and forget about that dude.
sibly
sibly
What have I done...
yesterday he said he dint want a thing with me. And today I convinced him to take this trip to a village nearby. we had lots of fun but in the way back home we had a mini fight and I figured he still blames me for things that I find that aren't really my fault.
he said that we should get back together but then he didn't want to say those words and he got annoyed at me for not saying them... he blames me that I took him there just to mess with his recovery.. and we came home, made love, and talked about it. he hasn't been able to sleep and it broke my heart. I vê told him I think we are not ready to be a couple ... and he asks me why I took him in that trip. I missed him so much and I was miserable I just wanted him near, but I don't understand what's wrong with me now! I wanted him back but I feel like I'm not ready... I'm nuts! and I've told him about trying to be friends but he's scared we ll lose ourselves in the middle and wants to be "something in undefined". I'm afraid we are becoming a joke of breaking up getting back together. I don't understand my feelings at all. please help me!
artgrrl
artgrrl
Maybe you both just need to figure out what you want and cut out the drama. You're either ready or you're not ready. You both have to want to go out with each other at the same time, if it's all that in-between stuff then there's no point in it, but that's something you guys will have to figure out.