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OK. my 6 month old hates her crib, loves mommy's bed. kicks daddy(boyfriend that has been there for us from the dooshbag that left us) out of the bed to sleep with mommy.
Everyone i know, says, let her cry. well she cries, and cries and cries. i feel horrible. i dont know what to do.
pick her up?
the let her cry ignore her seems harsh. i try to keep going in to check on her,
but since we started letting her cry, she has become fussy all day. where before she was always happy,
but something has to be done, she cant keep sleeping with mommy. cause mommy hurts her back to sleep around the baby, and daddy sleeps on the couch.
Everyone i know, says, let her cry. well she cries, and cries and cries. i feel horrible. i dont know what to do.
pick her up?
the let her cry ignore her seems harsh. i try to keep going in to check on her,
but since we started letting her cry, she has become fussy all day. where before she was always happy,
but something has to be done, she cant keep sleeping with mommy. cause mommy hurts her back to sleep around the baby, and daddy sleeps on the couch.
http://drmomma.blogspot.com/2009/07/co-sleeping-children-should-sleep-with.html
there is a thing called "controlled crying" where you gradually build up the minutes you leave a baby to cry before soothing them. I strongly recommend you have a well planed program before you start this process-it will only work with planning, persistence and partner support. If you launch into just letting her cry without a plan, you won't succeed. Your other alternative is the "family bed" as suggested, but remember that with this method, you need to be prepared to have a child in your bed for about 5 years. If you don't want this, now is the time to make the changes. The controlled crying method was devised by an Australian Dr, Christopher Green-see if you can find something on the net.
Good luck!!
cheers,
Gay
controlled crying does work, but at 6 months I wouldnt let her cry for more than 10 minutes, have you tried music? A couple of drops of lavender oil on her sheets etc?
Good lick - I know its difficult