Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
ACCEPTANCE is probably the most powerful tool that i am learning on my journey. first we learn acceptance, when we can accept something, good or bad, it loses its power over us, and gives us the power to let go. Once i can accept that this is going to hurt, or that this IS what it is, and force myself out of a denial stage, i can begin to heal.
its strange. all our lives we are told to "think positive"
and with women like us, thinking positive puts us in a state of denial.
things will get better, this is only temporary, its not so bad, we tell ourselves over and over again. we need to accept our situations, we need to accept that we put ourselves in places to be hurt, over and over again.
we need to accept that this is wrong. we need to accept and recognize the hurt within us, so we can come to terms with it, so we can let it go, and be that wonderful whole person buried deep within ourselves. that person we love, that person who is strong and knows what she wants. that person who can NEVER be broken.
its strange. all our lives we are told to "think positive"
and with women like us, thinking positive puts us in a state of denial.
things will get better, this is only temporary, its not so bad, we tell ourselves over and over again. we need to accept our situations, we need to accept that we put ourselves in places to be hurt, over and over again.
we need to accept that this is wrong. we need to accept and recognize the hurt within us, so we can come to terms with it, so we can let it go, and be that wonderful whole person buried deep within ourselves. that person we love, that person who is strong and knows what she wants. that person who can NEVER be broken.
i know. i came across a site like this, and read the book, and you know, im greatful i did. i could still be caught in the horrible circle, with no idea on how to get out. im not perfect, but looking back a couple years... WOW what a difference. i can finally be myself. finally enjoy my own company and not be ashamed. i actually like myself. and there is no longer that deep hole in my chest that can never be filled. no man was missing from my life, it was me. i was gone, and im enjoying getting re aquainted with myself.
its OK to not like what he likes, or to want something for yourself. its ok to recieve a shoulder rub and not have to give a full body massage in return. its ok to say ME first. ME ME ME ME. not you. ME. its a hard thing to do when you are like us. put ourselves first?? lol, but im learning, and having fun doing so.
get this.
i can ASK a guy to go to the store for ice cream, and if he comes back with the wrong kind, actually tell him i dont like it, say thanks, and you know what? let him go back to get the right kind. LOL.
and when someone says im Beautiful, i can say THANK you, and not feel like i owe them