Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
In the last couple years a red flag i would never have considered a red flag...
My current ex was ran over by a truck, violently, twice. Guy was trying to kill him. When it was all over, my ex was the calmest person I had ever seen after something like that. I took that as a good thing. He looked at me so intently, blood all over him, and told me everything would be ok. I thought man, if he can handle something like that, he would never yell at me or be irrational over nothing.
well, apparently extreme or unusual calmness in a situation is a red flag. It is now on my list.
Just a reminder, that for some reason, our compass with red flags is broken. we have to write them down and study them, because the normal buzzers that go off for those with a healthy working relationship model instilled in their brains don't go off for us. We are attracted to it, because at some point in our lives we accepted it as normal. So it feels right and normal.
My current ex was ran over by a truck, violently, twice. Guy was trying to kill him. When it was all over, my ex was the calmest person I had ever seen after something like that. I took that as a good thing. He looked at me so intently, blood all over him, and told me everything would be ok. I thought man, if he can handle something like that, he would never yell at me or be irrational over nothing.
well, apparently extreme or unusual calmness in a situation is a red flag. It is now on my list.
Just a reminder, that for some reason, our compass with red flags is broken. we have to write them down and study them, because the normal buzzers that go off for those with a healthy working relationship model instilled in their brains don't go off for us. We are attracted to it, because at some point in our lives we accepted it as normal. So it feels right and normal.
I would encourage you make a list. Go through your past relationships and identify the red flags you missed or lied to yourself about. it helps in the future.
I made a list this time around. kinda like that chick did on practical magic, create the perfect man that doesn't exist. and that is all that I will accept. no more crap.