If it were me I'd opt not to go. Six months ago I would have chosen to go. The difference is six months ago I was still holding out hope that maybe, just maybe, he'd change. However, I know now that he will NEVER change...ever. I wouldn't go only because the sight of him would set me back a few days. The sadness and pain would come back later that night...it wouldn't be worth it to me. However, the decision to go is definitely all yours and depending where you are in the healing process it may be ok.

If you decide to go then enjoy yourself completely! Don't waste time on worrying if he sees you. Good luck!

Thank you, Imp, for your reply. It's been only 2 months since I ended things with my EX-N. Two months is not a long time, and I DO still have feelings for him. FEELINGS OF CONTEMPT, THAT IS! I just don't want to have to run in to him, is all. I think the venue is large enough where I won't have to.

stay in public... make sure you are always talking to someone or with someone else.
if he approaches you give a simple smile how are you and be gone, or ignore him. do not let him talk to you alone, even if he asks, make sure he is blocked from anything and say email me, knowing you wont ever see it even if he tries. and make an excuse to talk to so and so over there, away from him. slip out before he notices you are gone. thats all i can think of?

Practicing face to face no contact is difficult but it can be done. You must be prepared to manage the rush of emotions you feel that will well up inside. You have to stay calm and cool on the outside when your insides are doing acrobatics. Follow Dracona's suggestions and remember to fill your mind with the present moment...the music! You are the only one that can determine if you are truly ready to attempt face to face NC. Much love to you Silver!

Just from the brief description of your feelings, I am wondering how you will be able to enjoy the event knowing he's probably there? If it were me, I'd be scanning the crowd the whole time and feeling that familar "rush" of excitement wondering whether I would see him or not. I'd be obsessing over how I will react if I do see him and mentally rehearsing my facial expression, words, and posture. That doesn't sound like a very good time to me.

I would put my recovery first and desire to attend the concert second until I was feeling more emotionally secure. Feelings of contempt are powerful and in my experience are begging to be expressed or resolved. Either way, I'd avoid any possible "run ins" simply for my own inner peace. I also noticed that when i treated myself with care and avoided potentially hurtful situations that my self esteem would get a boost. Only you know what's best for you. xo, ali