Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
I feel numb. I was talking with my ex for the last week. Nothing serious, no talk of getting back together, just talking. Sunday he called and asked what we were doing and I said being friends. It was like that was too much for him to handle and we decided not to talk anymore....Not phased by it.
I have also been in communication with a man I dated last year. Its really casual. We meet up for drinks like once a week. However the last time we ended up at my place. Needless to say afterwards I sent him home and didn't really care about what had just happened. I have no expectations and don't really care if I hear from him. Which is the complete opposite of how I would have handled it in the past.
Its like I don't feel anything anymore. I don't want a relationship and I certainly don't want to have the pressure of one right now. It scares me because I am afraid I will never get those feelings back.
I have also been in communication with a man I dated last year. Its really casual. We meet up for drinks like once a week. However the last time we ended up at my place. Needless to say afterwards I sent him home and didn't really care about what had just happened. I have no expectations and don't really care if I hear from him. Which is the complete opposite of how I would have handled it in the past.
Its like I don't feel anything anymore. I don't want a relationship and I certainly don't want to have the pressure of one right now. It scares me because I am afraid I will never get those feelings back.
I think you are just protecting yourself and to be honest I wish I could not feel anything ,however I have been where you are and then suddenly my emotions erupt and bang ...so be on your guard my friend xxx
As far as my ex goes, just being friends was too much for him. He followed his normal pattern, sweet, loving, flirty then started to pull away and boom gone. I suspect in a couple days I will get a text from him. Any type of committment to anything besides work is just too overwhelming for him. Such a sad and lonely way to live. I feel like these are the only type of men out there for us, most of my single friends are going throught the exact same thing with men they are interested in. Sometimes I think we are doomed because I don't have much faith in men.
He then has to endure the holidays with a family he hates,for that he will drink and exercise just to get through,like you said a sad existence ,especially when he could having a loving relationship with me ,he said once its easier for him to be miserable !!!
Not sure what to do ref chatting to him,he will know I am waiting for him to contact me ,so he will not do it ,where as I hate this crap ......
It shouldn't be this difficult,surely???
What on earth do I see in him???
I worry also ref the men ,my single friends are the same they have men drift in and out of their lives,text when they want,meet up when they want and then silences for days or weeks!!!!
I can't live like that and I feel guilty I can't accept that behaviour,to me your either in or your out ,nothing in the middle !!!!
My faith is zero ,I trust nothing they say,I think that all have cheated or will do eventually !!!
Xx
It does not encourage commitment,loyalty or honesty ..look at the tv shows filled with drama,deceit and affairs !! The dating sites lead you to believe there is an unlimited supply of men and women available at the click of a button,so why should these men work hard,why should they be loyal,why should they be respectful??????? WHEN in this day and age there is not only a throw away culture with objects and household stuff ,that culture also applies to people's hearts !!!!
Xxx