I have his iPod and speakers .....and I will keep them ,if he does use it as an excuse to contact me ....then I will mail them !! Until then they remain out of sight ,I have thrown his clothes away and other little items.
If he desperately needed them I would have heard from him.
I did we'll like you the first couple of weeks was a doddle...however now it's been a couple of months it has became really difficult ,not sure why ???
Your on the right tracks ..keep going my friend xxxxx

Chance,
Mt ex left his stuff in my garage for months - even while he was in a relationship with someone new. It was torture! I finally got strong enough and gave him a deadline to get it out. I refused to be there when he was there. Anyway, once I set the deadline he lost his mind - even more so because my only response to his antics was - "get your stuff by the deadline or I will sell it". It was hard, but I should have done it sooner. After a little more whining on his part he got it. Anyway, he left his expensive sunglasses in the garage after he picked up everything else. This was his lame attempt at trying to get me to contact him. He did not hear from me - but I made a nice little profit on his glasses on e-bay :-).

Anyway - in my opinion I would not contact him in any way to get his stuff. It will start a problem. Mail it to him or throw it away. You have to make a clean break. If he left things there it is because he they are not important to him or he wants a reason to contact you at his leisure. Take control away from him, get rid of it one way or another and then you can truly be in NC. You can't be in NC mentally if you keep seeing his stuff or even know it is in your home. Take his last link to you away. You owe that to yourself!! If he tries to contact you after he receives the items IGNORE HIM. You did not invite him in by giving him his stuff. You are telling him and yourself you are DONE!!
Much Love!

Thanks Ladies :) I removed them from my house and they are sitting in my work drawer in a bag so I don't see them. I was going to mail them but thought that he would think i was thinking about him and missed him. We have broken up SEVERAL times and each time i have thrown the things left behind away; they were small things, cards, toothbrushes etc. But these items are more useful and i don't want to throw them out, or mail them or look at them. Maybe i should just pach them up untill I can look at them withouot feeling hurt. Im getting there. This isn't my first time through this and it gets easier everytime, its the ending of the relationship that's the hardest part.

I believe your story is similar to so many. I know it is right on the money with mine.Many of us break up and get back together with these men. The familiarity of the pain is almost a comfort to us. The addiction is so strong. Strange but true. If you cannot bring yourself to get rid of the leftover items, definitely pack them away where you cannot not see them - not even the bag they are in. Give them to a friend if need be. Just make sure you are not holding onto them in hopes he will contact you to retrieve the items. I do not say this to be harsh, but because it is what I did subconciously. It was that one last thing I had of him.

In the end, do what's right for you. I would actually suggest mailing it back to him because as long as you have his stuff, your mind will be on it and technically it is his property. Is there a way you could mail it to him and make it impossible for him to contact you ie) change your phone number or email address? That may be something to consider. Good luck