Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
I want to say to all of the wonderful women out here that there is hope !!!! I was with a N for 6 years. He came along & swept me off my feet & I was totally sucked in. Then the real him showed up but of coarse I was too far gone to see it. I spent 6 years in a mentally & verbally abusive relationship . I know I was unhappy but I was also despreat to keep him around. Then one day I came home from work & he was gone. He had packed up & left after telling me just that morning how much he loved me & couldnt wait till I came home lol. Oh yeah he couldnt wait till I could see he was gone. Its a very long story he left me for another women who he had been working on for 2 YEARS while he was with me !!! After he left I was devastated but I did figuer a few things out & contacted the women he was headed for. Some things happend then & for awhile I wasent sure what had happened to him. Eventually he contacted me & said he was bairly making it & his life was horrible but he was trying to get threw it. He said he was doing all the things I wanted him too & was working out his issues. We talked for almost another yr before I figuered out he had been liying the whole time & was living with the women he left me for!!!! He was living a great life & just playing a game to see if he could keep me hanging on. That has been almost 6 years ago now. He has been out of my life & I have NO regreats about that I am happy now. Here is the thing this last nov he has tried to find me. He called where I work once in nov & agine in dec. No one gave him any info so I hought ok all done. Just this week he tried to friend me on FB & sent me a message. Its crazy he wrote like we were old friends & I would be happy to here from him. I have blocked him on FB & needless to say IM not going to be contacting him. The reasone I wrote this is to let you all know I have absoultly NO desire what so ever to be in any kind of contact with him !!!!! There is nothing i want to here from him & I absoultly want nothing more to do wih him !!!!! I have no been throw by him trying to contact me no old feelings or desire to see or talk to him. Only thing i feel is wow how sad is he that hes so hard up hes going to try lol . Im totally done with that & nothing will change it. So there is hope that you will get over it & be compleatly free of them someday !!!!!!
Hugs and Blessings
I have always been the same way with my previous partners--it takes me a while to get over things but when I move on, I move on and have no regrets, bear no bitterness/anger. This one feels differently and I hope very much that is just the beginning stage. This too shall pass, as the saying goes and I pray that this is the case. Right now, it is hard to imagine not caring and really feeling at peace with where I am and not caring what he is doing, with whom and where. Not there yet. My "normal" is to seek out the next one to quiet this suffering. I don't know how to do it any other way so this is a test.