Women who Love too Much Community Group
WHEN BEING IN LOVE, MEANS BEING IN PAIN... This group is to help women through the journey of realizing they can love themselves. To help realize that they are capable of having a happy, healthy, whole relationship and break the cycle of abuse and heartache from loving emotionally unavailable men.
How is it I can be on such a high on Thanksgiving and getting ready for it and after drop into such a low? I don't feel good and my mood is getting progressively worse as the week goes on. It was hell just getting out of bed this morning. I got my daughter to school on time but was an hour late to work because I laid down for a "minute". Thank goodness I have an understanding boss. I am letting the fact that I have not heard much from my BF since Thanksgiving put me in an awful funk. This is not the type of relationship we have. I don't typically get anxious with him. I don't like this one bit. He text me last night to tell me my daughter's drums were delivered to his house. a few text went back and forth after that until it ended with him telling me he had a crappy day at work again. We exchanged good nights and that was it. He is a Scorpio and they retreat when they are stressed. He has a new job and hates it so it has him in retreat mode. I know this about him. Why is is affecting me like this? I think I am doing great healing from my past then BAM it all comes flowing back.
it's great that you know it's not about you that he retreats and that is not personal b/c you would be a lot worse off…unless you know that in your head and not in your heart….perhaps on some level you do not accept this and do take it personally? does it replicate anything from childhood b/c that would explain the depression???
acceptance is the answer….it's more than likely situational even if you don't' understand why right now. do you have a history of depression??? are you feeling helpless? are you eating?? sleeping? hopeless?? loss of motivation??
grain of salt talk: they say depression is anger turned inward. i've also heard depression is anger standing still. my sponsor used to say that depression is selfish. bare with me. i have severe depression so i always got mad whenever she implied this….but the remedy then is to get out and do something for someone else and it always worked. also in DBT depression would have us shut down so we do the opposite of that and get out there and do things we don't feel like doing.
let's talk more……if you like…….about what's behind your depression...