Hi I'm a "future" police wife. My boyfriend wants to be a cop. He is in the process of joining an academy however, he is also applying to be a teacher. We've been together 4 years and I am trying to be supportive but I don't want the police job to work out. I don't mean to be selfish but even the application process has been tough. Its been much easier for him to be a teacher and safer. Especially where we live. We haven't gotten married or had kids yet because this police process has been strenuous. I am a student but I'm also 29. I want to have kids and marry him but not to a cop. How can I change my perception? He's a great man. I love him with all of my heart. I want this to work. I want to join this group to learn to be supportive of him. To backtrack a little, I was in several relationships with cadets, correctional officer's & cops before we met. They all sucked. One guy left me for a co-worker after we miscarried and were planning to marry. The other left me to miscarry because he too was living a double life. One guy switched schedules so much I didn't know how things were even working out. They started out as good men but I watched them change. Although the past is the past, I swore off dating cops (ego, schedules, paranoid behavior etc). My bf wanted to be a teacher when we met not a cop. I feel like this is DejaVu and I love him but how do I support him knowing what's to come?