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Singer78 12/21/2019

I am sad and feel like the song title I listed above. Christmas is has been hard every year. Two years ago I got mad and kicked my husband out the 23rd of December while my parents were in town. Last night my husband started again with me yelling telling me the last five years I am always angry he hates me ect.. outside. As he was working yeah right in his shed. My parents are on their way today his dad is coming the the day after Christmas and he was screaming at him on the phone last night. I can't take it.. I just dislike the holidays anymore. It's not fun even though we have a 3 year old. I was reading about divorcing an alcoholic last night it seems like it's actually worse. How can I even protect my daughter from him when I am not around I just hate this shit. I am damned if I do and damned if I don't.

keatamax 12/22/2019

Hi Singer, I was in a similar situation a few years ago, and long story short, I kicked my ex out and divorced him. I got full custody of the kids, given his DUIs - he didn’t contest me on this, I think because he knew he had become a lousy father and he didn’t want that responsibility. Once he was out of the house it was amazing how calm it was, and I knew I made the right choice. Kids don’t belong in an alcoholic, unhappy home. It might be worth consulting with an attorney about your concerns of him caring for your child as part of the divorce agreement, and what could be done. It’s not easy, but it’s so worth it. Sending strength your way.

LovePeaceSushi 12/27/2019

Start gathering evidence now. I'd be tempted to anonymously report him to the cops if you know he's driving drunk. Have his tag number memorized. The most important thing is establishing the alcoholism in court when the parenting plan is being made. SO much more difficult and costly to amend the parenting plan after its been signed off on.

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