We are coming up on 26 years, 16 of them in an alcoholic haze for him. He "got sober" 3 years ago but that is a load of crap....yeah, if sober is a pint of vodka in the linen closet that you go back and forth upstairs drinking while ur 12 year old son is watching baseball, using mouthwash so I won't be able to tell (HA! both my parents were alcoholics, I can tell if someone has had ONE drink much less many) I really hate my husband, I hate him...but I have no options. We r paycheck to paycheck, we could never afford 2 homes. I have no family left and there was a time when I thought of shipping him back to his parents so he would be away from us and could live rent free but now they've lost thier house and have no room for him. So I'm just trapped, trapped....and I'm going to die, the broke, angry wife of an alcoholic. No point here I guess except maybe for anyone who is in the beginning stages of a relationship with an alcoholic...get out, get out if u see this kind of behavior...they do not get better ever, AA is a joke (if any other "program" had such a fail rate it would be drummed out of society...10% AT BEST!) AA is a cult, a cult that doesn't work. Alcoholics are stunted narcissists with NO ability to cover. They will never get well, they will never get better, they will suck you dry and ruin your life. RUN.