☹️ How did it go? When you say kids, how old are they? I hate to say this, I really do, but... your guy isn’t going to change unless HE wants to change. Any chance of that? I’ve been married for 13 years and it’s really no better today than it was many years ago. I HAVE changed, our relationship has changed. I am not in love with him. I care about him and do love him, but... You’re 2 years in, can you see yourself still married in 10 years? It’s hard. We all know.

Hop on in the boat......one more won't make us sink any faster!!!!!!

It went the same as always Terse comments from me and a clown act from him. I never know if he’s going to be silly or sarcastic and ugly when it happens. The kids are adults. The next day I made him a deal-I said you are who you are so hears my deal-never in front of my kids. Drink all you want in front of yours they must be used to it. I said I’m not going to try and control this anymore but know that you are killing a beautiful thing. He was very sad and apologized-like always
I retired from my career when we married - at his request- the day after this “time” I filled out an application for a job. Thinking I need my own life and some security because I will not stay in this situation. A left a good man because I did not respect him -I sure as heck can leave
Another of I dont respect him
I don’t want to change anymore -I like me! So I’m going to reverse the change and get stronger I have to because I’m losing me.

I can completely empathize with what you're saying, especially the need for security! I also quit working when I married to stay home and help with his business. My former employer just contacted me to come back and work...salary, insurance, 401K, education covered....just typing that out makes me feel crazy for telling them "no". My AH could be dead this time next year!

Welcome!