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Fleanum1 03/07/2015

Unfortunately, I cannot do this anymore...my husband keeps going out drinking and is putting my daughter and myself in danger. He is drinking and driving, he is spending his entire pay check, and most recently he hit the car next to him in parking lot in our condo causing us to have to pay more money. He is getting worse instead of better. I was wondering if anyone on this site would be aware of what a lawyer usually costs and whether this lawyer is really expensive. Any suggestions would be helpful...I really tried to hang on and help him...I cant do it anymore.
thank you..

Fleanum1 03/07/2015

Oops...i forgot to add the lawyer wants 3500 to just start working together on separation.

bonblue 03/07/2015

You are doing the right thing also check about not holding you responsible if he
Hurts someone else that way you will not be held responsible for his actions

racinggirl 03/08/2015

I did my divorce on my own (twice) once with kids envolved once without. It just depends on how much fighting you have to do, but all the paperwork you get from the courthouse, pay a filing fee, and usually if you have questions, they have dates when you can go ask a public lawyer for free.

Changeforbetter101 03/08/2015

I have retained a lawyer, but I feel I am doing a lot of the work! Maybe get yourself acquainted with the laws in your state because what I know now (although we are still 'fighting'), I think it would have been a lot cheaper had I done all the homework I have done before I retained an attorney. While my stbx is out getting drunk - I use that time to look up case law in my state. A big part of my case is his dissipation of assets. I can and will be using his alcoholism against him and I have researched a lot of cases that have done the same. My lawyer has 'steered' me in the direction of what can happen, but I am the one standing up for myself and saying "THis is not right and he needs to pay!" We'll see what happens. Good luck to you and I would get yourself an attorney....

keatamax 03/11/2015

I think it's reasonable to expect to pay $3500-4500 for the whole divorce - soup to nuts. Be strong.

naiveanddeceived 03/12/2015

Keatamax - oh, how i wish that were true in my case. It really depends on the circumstances, whether you have kids or not, and the actual individuals involved and how willing they are to cooperate or not with the process (alcohol abuse and mental health issues with the wife does not make this process go smoothly). I've already spent over $50,000, and I'm still not divorced yet. That money is gone, to never be seen again. But, my kids are safe from her right now, until she decides to seek the help she needs and start getting better.

keatamax 03/12/2015

OMG Naive, sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult divorce. That is a great deal of money. I would think her alcohol & mental health issues would put you in the drivers seat - especially since you are the stable parent. I hope you can put it behind you soon. Thankfully you have your children, and the peace in knowing you're providing a safe and loving home life for them.

becharatarabay 02/14/2017

What's the current situation? On what amount did the lawyer agreed? Did your husband agree to separate from you easily? I asked this because my aunt is also facing the same situation and her husband is not ready to give divorce to her so easily. She has searched many options like various social media profiles like http://www.societe.com/societe/monsieur-bechara-tarabay-343059028.html to hire a good lawyer. Wish best for her.

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