Hi Ladies- I haven't logged in in a while but I wanted to give you an update that my husband is now sober. For the first time in his life, he made the choice not to drink for a year. It's a first after 13 years. The last time I was on here I wanted to stop complaining and talk about the good when it happens. Yet, I have to admit I never thought he would finally make this decision to be completely sober. So it's kind of surreal. He's been working on it for a year and slowly getting better. So for those of you in the thick of it, I hope this is encouraging.

That being said, soberity is not what I thought it would be. I thought once he's sober everything will be fixed. Instead, I realize there are struggles in soberity especially because he is newly sober. A number of you have touched on the fact that they are very child like, drinking or sober. Mine has no problem solving skills still and has become very self righteous now that he is sober. I can't believe that he can't remember the struggle that he came from and be more empathetic to people.

So that's the latest. Love and light. And if you have any advice, please share.