My AH has been on and off for years but is now full on drinking vodka.  I recently found it in both cars only to be met with very unbelievable excuses.  I mean can anyone tell me when it is a good idea for anyone to have a bottle in the car.  Anyway it is out of control now and he basically said he won't stop.  He "compromised" saying he won't drink near me but that is such crap. There's 168 hours in a week .If I subtract out work and sleep .We end up spending 8-15 hours a week together . So that leaves a lot of time to be drinking.   Just sick of watching someone I love kill themselves slowly . I don't think he can stop if he even wanted to now.  I don't think I can bring myself to leave.  I don't want to lose my home and life.  Although my job is stressful too.  Really struggling.