Hi.. firstly i would like to thank everyone for sharing their experiences.

I found this group last night as i once again experienced the lows of being with an alcoholic.

My partner is an active alcoholic. He works hard long hours and does provide. He drinks every day and i honestly couldn't tell you the last day he didnt drink.

Of course i get told by him how hard he works and deserves a "night cap" for his efforts. He can be a happy and caring drunk and loves to provide for family and friends. Most people are aware of his drinking problem but aren't too concerned because they know they always have a drinking companion and dont have to live with him. They will talk to me about the arrogance and common abuse but nothing to or in front of him. If i except his problem and not comment on his embarrassing behaviour of course everything is ok but i cant and wont.

I am miserable! I work and do everything in our home without any help. He's too busy apparently as he pours another drink.

Lonely, sad and no support and he wont talk to me about this.. i hear it all, i drink because of you, we only have problems because you and your mouth, im not hurting anyone. I asked him today to stay sober 2 days in the week. His prompt aggressive na says it all. He will outright say i don't care i drink everyday and has no intention to stop. He doesnt want to stop.

Today im trying to except that i cant help him but i can help myself.. going to be a long road but ive been on this current trip for 12yrs. Wish me luck in finding myself and my smile again!