My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. We first met when I was 19 and he was 23. I didn't realize that drinking was a problem for him until just the past few years. As we grew up and I started drinking less, he never slowed down. What used to be drinking while going out, became drinking at home, which became drinking on the job. He got probation at work the first time but a year later he got caught again and lost his job. He's been unemployed for 2 years now and since then there has been nothing to slow his alcoholism. What used to be days at a bingers are now weeks. He gets sick anytime he tries sobering up or after a few weeks binging.

He knows he has a problem but doesnt do anything about it. The longest he stayed sober was a month, but as always just one drink and we are back to square one. I am so scared that one day i am going to come home and he'll have alcohol poisoning or something terrible will happen. I'm at the end of my rope and just don't know how much more I have left to give. I feel so bitter and angry and sometimes I feel like I'm losing myself. It's all so overwhelming sometimes and hard because no matter what I can't fix the problem, he has to.

Lately, I feel like its gotten even worse, him waking up at 4 am now and drinking and passing out before I even leave for work. I don't know what to do. I feel as though I'm at the end of the rope and am left with nothing but an ultimatum, rehab or I leave. The hardest part is knowing I'd have to stick to my word and actually leave. I just don't know what to do anymore...

Any advice would be welcome or even just experiences.